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KatyDo
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Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, July 5th (Saturday)

So I am still on the reconciliation board and considering R with my husband. We had a nice night tonight, after the emotional roller coaster of the past few days since I started this month's separation.

I realized how much I had missed him, and his company. Also, I realized how nice it was to have the choice to see him, as opposed to being locked into close quarters with him and his mother as we were both caregiving as well as trying to tend to our relationship.

We didn't get into anything too heavy tonight, but I mentioned how nice it was to have some head space instead of having so little personal time.

I'm trying to keep an open mind, without being blind to the events of the past. I feel more "seen" by him than ever before. If he can be honest with me, and deal with many of his issues I could see a future. Sometimes that's a pretty big IF, but it's good to have a nice night now and again.


Married 7 years, together for 14
Me: BS Him: chronic boundary issues, EA for 2 years, DD Spring 2013

Posts: 190 | Registered: Nov 2013
tl502
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Member # 42607
Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, July 5th (Saturday)

Good for you and your h, its thoses moments that get each of us through the tough times. Hopefully they will get more frequent as time goes by.


Married 30 yrs.
dd1 9/10/2011 ea/pa
DD2 3/25/2013 same ow, never stopped email and phone contact.
Putting the past behind us and moving forward together

Posts: 226 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: tl502
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