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Faithful w/Love
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, July 9th (Wednesday)

Well I am finally in my condo. Life is going okay. A little strange that I am place in this situation for the second go around but I am in acceptance and peace with it.
Is it normal that I haven't cried or felt a lose of anything? Maybe, it is because I have been a roller coaster for 5 long years and this is just a little piece of salvation for me.
Wh and I are getting along, I have no anger, self pity, sadness, it is what it is. Maybe it has not hit me yet or maybe I have had enough been through enough. I am moving on with getting to know me again and enjoying it. I like the feeling of not having all the drama in my face, I feel in control of myself again and my life. Like a weight has been lifted and that I belong where I am wanted. In my own home. (sounds strange huh).

I want to thank you all for all the wise advice, standing behind me all these years with a 2x4 in hand when I needed it.

I don't know what the future holds for myself but I know the past will not keep me hostage either, so it is one day at a time for me, counting all my blessings, and thanking God that I made through again.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"


Posts: 2773 | Registered: Aug 2011
WeepingBuddhist
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Member # 39139
Default  Posted: 11:35 AM, July 9th (Wednesday)

So glad you are settling into your new place and embracing the future!


Me: BS 46
Him: unimportant
D Day:4-27-13
DIVORCED!!! 2-20-14

Posts: 600 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Columbus
Faithful w/Love
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Member # 33128
Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, July 9th (Wednesday)

Thank weeping,
Its been a draining 5 years to say the least.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"


Posts: 2773 | Registered: Aug 2011
ButterflyGirl
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Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, July 9th (Wednesday)


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ Stolen from asurvivor

Posts: 2298 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, July 9th (Wednesday)

Thank you butterflygirl! You were a huge help to me with your advice.


BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"


Posts: 2773 | Registered: Aug 2011
ButterflyGirl
Member
Member # 38377
Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, July 9th (Wednesday)

Aww, thanks girl!

You have on idea how much you've helped me with your advice, too. Just even seeing you respond to other posts, I just know how strong and brave you are.

I hope God blesses you with many awesome things in your future!


xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven
"I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know." ~ Stolen from asurvivor

Posts: 2298 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, July 9th (Wednesday)

Is it normal that I haven't cried or felt a lose of anything? Maybe, it is because I have been a roller coaster for 5 long years and this is just a little piece of salvation for me.
Perfectly normal. Especially after a false R. You've done the grind, you've given everything you could. And you know you are done.

Congrats on the new place, hon.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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