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User Topic: Promotion had!!!!!!!
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 4:31 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

I interviewed for, was offered, and accepted a promotion at work.....official yesterday!

This is a significant accomplishment for me at any point in my career, but made even more so by the following fact. 45 minutes before the formal interview 4 weeks ago I experienced a strong trigger.....my gut acted up, I checked my wife's laptop and I discovered my wife lurking OM FB page. this was something she had been doing over the past 2 years.
The events of that DD smelled and tasted sickenly similar to that of my first DD 2 years ago!

I post because

---some are following my journey and were rooting and praying for me on the promotion even before my 3rd DD.....and some DURING that trial and some right after it!

---to encourage others who read about fully committed wayward spouses but don't have one of their own, wondering how they could possibly grow while their spouse checks out and the pains continue. It can be done! Yes....to have a spouse as your cheerleader would be much nicer, but this is proof you can grow and succeed without it....and can actually do it, at times, in spite of their actions. Don't let the actions of others be a reason for your inactions.

---to thank God for what He has done. No way did I get "composed, stable and focused" on my own to handle the 2 hour, highly engaging interview all on my own. I felt his presence and it felt good!

---to thank ya'll for the support....both long standing from my original brat pack members and short-term critical-support on that day 4 weeks ago! I trusted this support would be there....and was pleasantly surprised at how instant and compassionate it flowed from you guys!


Is it weird to be grateful for that day and trigger? It was a tough day.....but a fruitful one. A bountiful harvest from so many different fields!!!!!


God is with us all.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 5:03 AM, July 12th (Saturday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4041 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Hatemyhusband
Member
Member # 41633
Default  Posted: 5:29 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

Great news. Love to read positive things happening to good people.

Posts: 386 | Registered: Dec 2013
Rebreather
Member
Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

Sweet!!! Great job! Congrats!!!


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6646 | Registered: Jan 2011
sisoon
Member
Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

Congratulations! Best of luck in your new responsibilities.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10572 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
hopefull77
Member
Member # 43221
Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

congratulations!


me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 06-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr



Posts: 676 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
karmahappens
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Member # 35846
Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

Congratulations! Hard work rewarded. ... Good for you.

I hope you celebrate☆☆☆☆☆☆


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3858 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
Sunnydaysahead
Member
Member # 43756
Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

Congratulations!!!

Posts: 81 | Registered: Jun 2014
musiclovingmom
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Member # 38207
Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

So awesome Blake! I'm excited for this accomplishment for you!

Posts: 1141 | Registered: Jan 2013
blakesteele
Member
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 10:22 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

Thanks guys! I knew you would be excited and supportive!!!!

Peace.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4041 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
AML04
Member
Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

Fantastic news!!! I'm so happy for you!!


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

Posts: 875 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
rachelc
Member
Member # 30314
Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

yay! Had a feeling all along... good job!


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


Posts: 5526 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
LosferWords
Guide
Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

Congrats! Well earned, Blake. Really happy to hear the good news from you!

Posts: 8009 | Registered: Dec 2010
devasted30
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Member # 39439
Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, July 12th (Saturday)

Congratulations Blake!!!


And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!

Posts: 1381 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Ontario, Canada
blakesteele
Member
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, July 12th (Saturday)

😊😊😊😊😊😊

Thanks!


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4041 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
Feelthrownaway
Member
Member # 33772
Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, July 12th (Saturday)

Congrats !!!!


BW- 48
FWH-49
D-day- aug 16,2011
Married 23 years- together 25

What doesn't kill me, scars me.


Posts: 1208 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Down South
Skan
Member
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, July 12th (Saturday)

I was wondering what the news on the promotion was. Congratulations! That''s wonderful news!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 5097 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
iwillNOT
Member
Member # 40605
Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, July 12th (Saturday)

Well done!


Me: BS, 43
Him: WH, 44
Together 21 years
Married 14 years
Kiddos 2,6,8,10
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Rugsweep now, pay later. Ask me how I know.

Posts: 514 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Midwest
Jrazz
Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, July 12th (Saturday)

Congratulations!


"If the path you walk leads back to yourself, you'll never get anywhere." - Master Oogway

Posts: 18322 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Arnold01
Member
Member # 39751
Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, July 12th (Saturday)

Congratulations! Enjoy the new role and have fun with whatever new challenges and career learning opportunities it brings you! I'm really happy for you.


D-Day: June 2013 discovered two-month EA/PA
NC established: August 2013
Reconciling

Posts: 121 | Registered: Jul 2013
HUM1021
Member
Member # 6222
Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, July 12th (Saturday)

Yay!


Me: BS 34
Her: WS 33
M 5 years
dday with 1st OM 4/30/04 EA/PA
dday with 2nd OM 12/11/04 EA/PA
on the reconciliation rollercoaster

Posts: 739 | Registered: Jan 2005 | From: Colorado
deena04
Member
Member # 41741
Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, July 12th (Saturday)

Yay! Great job!!


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
L-I-B-E-R-A-T-I-N-G ME

Posts: 1234 | Registered: Dec 2013
FixYou71
Member
Member # 42654
Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, July 12th (Saturday)

PTL! Congrats Blakesteele!


BS: 43
H: 49
Dday #1 Oct 2007 (Porn for 2 yrs)
Dday #2 May 2013 (Porn for 5 more yrs))
Dday#3 May 2014 (finally admitted to drunk kissing OW in 1994: the 2nd drunken kiss with another woman during our M)
DD 21 and DS 17
Married 1993

Posts: 481 | Registered: Mar 2014
Neverwudaguessed
Member
Member # 41884
Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, July 12th (Saturday)

Wow! What an especially sweet victory when you consider all that you had dealt with up to that day, hours prior to the interview and since. Your strength and courage give us all hope and warms my heart. CONGRATULATIONS!! well deserved.


BW: 44 Me
WH:48
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 12 1/2 years ago for 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 13
DD 11

Posts: 741 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York
5454real
Member
Member # 37455
Default  Posted: 11:54 PM, July 12th (Saturday)

Awesome!


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

Posts: 3172 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
mhca
Member
Member # 41920
Default  Posted: 12:06 AM, July 13th (Sunday)

Oh wow, I know this was a big one for you. Congrats!!


Me: BH 47 STBXWW 47 (Lklb5)
M 19 years, DS 15, DS 11
DD#1: 12/24/2013
TT/Broke NC/False R
DD#2: 4/15/2014
TT 4/23, 4/24, 5/31, 7/19
Divorcing

Sample recovery plan, feedback welcome: http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=539961


Posts: 869 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
ItsaClimb
Member
Member # 37107
Default  Posted: 4:12 AM, July 13th (Sunday)

Congratulations blake, SO thrilled for you!


BS 46
Together 29 yrs, M 25 years
2 daughters 24yo(married with a brand new little daughter) & 19yo
D-Day 18 Aug 2012
6mth EA lead to 4mth PA with CO-W. I found out 8 1/2 yrs later

Posts: 1024 | Registered: Oct 2012
catlover50
Member
Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 4:44 AM, July 13th (Sunday)

That's wonderful; good for you!!



Dday -9/24/2012
Reconciling

Posts: 1816 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
blakesteele
Member
Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 7:00 AM, July 13th (Sunday)

Thanks for chiming in!!!!!

It does feel good.

Peace.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 4041 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
brokensmile322
Member
Member # 35758
Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, July 13th (Sunday)

Great job, Blakesteele! You should be proud. Nothing shows how much you have grown than persevering through this interview AND landing the job just minutes after finding out about dday 3.

Celebrate you! You deserve it!


Me BS 42 Him WS 44
OW Coworker DDay April 7, 2012
EA on a slippery slope...

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. ~Viktor Frankl

"When you are happy, you can forgive a great deal."


Posts: 1595 | Registered: Jun 2012
SadFlower
Member
Member # 37725
Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, July 13th (Sunday)

I am so happy for you, Blakesteele. Congratulations!


Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 19 years
In R.

D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA


Posts: 412 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut
spond
Member
Member # 41686
Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, July 13th (Sunday)

Awesome job Blake!!! Like there was really a doubt in mgmt''s minds!!


BH(me) | fWW
2 Kids - Married 2002
D-Day TT & EA | D-Day #2 PA
Reconciling

Posts: 421 | Registered: Dec 2013
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