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gonnabe2016
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Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, July 20th (Sunday)

I'm never going to be divorced from Monster.
We had a trial date scheduled for mid-August and it's now being delayed because he won't comply with financial disclosure.
Apparently he's decided that he's divorced and who needs to worry about the little details of making it official?
He is living his life as if he's already divorced.
Does he not realize that there's a difference between getting divorced and being divorced????

This sucks. I hate being held hostage.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8005 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
peridot
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Member # 18334
Default  Posted: 9:08 PM, July 20th (Sunday)

(((gonnabe2016)))

He can only put it off for so long.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


Posts: 4775 | Registered: Feb 2008
ChoosingHope
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Member # 33606
Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, July 20th (Sunday)

I actually shivered when I read your title, Gonna.

My trial was originally scheduled for July 2012. He managed to postpone it for two full years, mostly through failures of discovery, but worse, also through false accusations against me and my attorneys like the infamous nonexistent key logger.

You will prevail. You WILL. Keep posting, and SI will support you. He can't postpone it forever. Not even GENIUS could do that.


Posts: 1696 | Registered: Oct 2011
gonnabe2016
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Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, July 20th (Sunday)

He can only put it off for so long.

Yea, that's what I said a year ago.
I have been actively trying to divorce this guy since August 2012.
We aren't even held up because we can't agree on shit.
We're held up because he won't provide necessary information......and when he's informed of delays, I get the brain damage from him about how *I'm* the one delaying shit because I'm greedy.

I just want to Be.Done with him.


eta: @CH: you and I have a lot in common.....

[This message edited by gonnabe2016 at 9:24 PM, July 20th (Sunday)]


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8005 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
dmari
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Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, July 20th (Sunday)

How will the court "encourage" him to comply? Fines? Your attorney fees covered?


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2195 | Registered: Oct 2012
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, July 20th (Sunday)

Mine did this too, and yes, had the audacity to assert that I was the cause of the divorce being dragged out!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9664 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Compartmented
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Member # 29410
Default  Posted: 10:42 PM, July 21st (Monday)

Mine did this too, and yes, had the audacity to assert that I was the cause of the divorce being dragged out!
Ditto!

He also told the children I was running up the attorney bills! He made a mistake though. He told them I was doing it BEFORE he ran the bills up. Dumb ass.


Posts: 1257 | Registered: Aug 2010
nekorb
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Member # 40306
Default  Posted: 10:51 PM, July 21st (Monday)

I just want to Be.Done with him.

That's what he's counting on. Push that shit out of your mind!


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

Posts: 1838 | Registered: Aug 2013
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday)

(((((((((((((gonna))))))))))))

He's counting on wearing you down. It will happen eventually.

I hate to say it, but I thought you were looking to be divorced by 2016 - like your name.

Sending strength.

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5070 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
gonnabe2016
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Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday)

I hate to say it, but I thought you were looking to be divorced by 2016 - like your name.


I hadn't thought of that before now, but at the rate things are going, it may end up being true.

If he's trying to wear me down -- it's not gonna work. At this point, my L wouldn't allow me to sit down for any type of negotiations without having the information that we're trying to get. He is LEGALLY required to provide what we're asking for....and so we'll wait until he does.


How will the court "encourage" him to comply?

I guess I'll find out tomorrow. We have a scheduling conference to attend in the morning where the new trial date will be set.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8005 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
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