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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 2:29 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday)

Tonight I was subjected to a witch hunt. The HR generalist and my manager came to our location to interview EVERYONE on my staff.

It started with the team lead. She was so 'distraught' that they put her on administrative leave It's such bullshit. What about my distress? I have to keep going, keep the lab running and perform my job duties, those of my staff on FMLA, and now the team lead's duties. I'm working 9-12 hour days plus weekends. I'm so frustrated.

One bit of levity--each one of my staff was called in to talk to the HR rep. When one of them returned to the lab, she said she was asked, "How is it in the lab?" and she responded, "It's freezing in there!" It didn't occur to her that she was being asked about the atmosphere...

I guess I need to craft another email to the HR manager...


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:51 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday)

Ugh, SAZ. I'm so sorry you're dealing with all this crap. Sending you strength, honey. (((((hugs))))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:58 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday)

Ugh. Hang in there Sazzy.


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday)

(((Sad)))

I'm sorry you are going through this. Sending you strength.


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, July 22nd (Tuesday)

Boo. While it still sounds like your manager has no idea what she is doing, I'm guessing the "climate" will improve dramatically in drama queen's absence, and it will be made much clearer.

(((Sazzy)))


Posts: 3445 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
Cally60
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday)

And if - as seems likely - the people working for you are happy with your leadership, the individual interviews might be greatly to your advantage. (That's what happened in the case of someone in my family, anyway. )

[This message edited by Cally60 at 7:37 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday)]


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, July 22nd (Tuesday)

(((((((((SAZ)))))))))))

I wonder when they'll get a clue?

Don't forget to document this latest event.

Hugs.
K


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, July 23rd (Wednesday)

I'm sorry you're going through all of this. It's not right.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 1:15 PM, July 23rd (Wednesday)

I don''t know what to make of this news. We desperately need a new scanner for our requisitions. Now, the vice president of the entire division is coming tomorrow to deliver and install it. He''s the VP of the Northeast division. WTF.

I hope I''m making a mountain out of a molehill. Maybe he''s on his way to a vacation destination and we''re on the way...right...


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Posts: 20279 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, July 23rd (Wednesday)

Hoping it goes your way. I would have my resume polished up just in case.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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yewtree
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, July 23rd (Wednesday)

Sad, I don't like this. Did you ever get the opportunity to talk to someone in HR about the initial experience?
I'm sorry but it sounds like you are being set up.


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Divorced 2009, Closing on house Nov 2011 -
No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.


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itainteasy
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Default  Posted: 7:32 AM, July 24th (Thursday)

Good luck today.

It does sounds like you're being set up.

My stomach bottomed out reading that the VP is coming to "install a scanner". Yeah...that's something the IT dept does.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, July 24th (Thursday)

I have all of my backup information. I have statements from both my manager and the HR department that they've been trying to get rid of this team lead for years (what is so difficult??), I've been doing my job plus all the other empty positions (including the team leads because she's been on administrative leave since Monday). I don't know what else I can do.

One piece of good news is that my data entry person came back from medical leave yesterday. This woman is amazing. She's close to 70, had MAJOR surjery (opened from her abdomen to her knees) and is back at work after 7 weeks--she was bored So last night I was able to help out in the lab. One of my staff commented about how calm it was without all of the negative energy (she didn't mention the team lead by name.) We kicked ass and got most of the work done, even though we were short-handed.

I get results; we'll see if it's enough.


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, July 24th (Thursday)

Although they are handling it poorly, it sounds more like they are building a case against the lead. Generally being placed on leave is bad, isn't it?

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 9:42 AM, July 24th (Thursday)

I am so annoyed and angry about all this! The one person who is getting everything done being persecuted by the one person poisoning the atmosphere...

Sending you mojo.


Sit. Feast on your life.

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, July 24th (Thursday)

Cresc, she was placed on leave because she was so 'distraught'. Yes, distraught that she wasn't getting her own way, which includes getting me fired.

In fact, the head of HR said they should have placed her on admin leave right after the confrontation that my manager orchestrated, so they are giving her a pass on the two nonconsecutive days she called in sick--which were not immediately after the confrontation--so that negates the attendance disciplinary action

They are so afraid of being sued, even if there is no case.


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Default  Posted: 10:15 AM, July 24th (Thursday)

((((SAZ)))) Sending you good mojo for today.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, July 24th (Thursday)

Meanwhile there are tons of unemployed people who would happily take her place and do the job well.

((( Sazzy )))


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yewtree
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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, July 24th (Thursday)

Well, any news? Fingers crossed!


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No longer waiting for the other "she" to drop.


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, July 24th (Thursday)

I've been thinking about you SAZ - how did it go?


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Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 1:11 AM, July 25th (Friday)

So...

I received a very mild rebuke admonishing me to be mindful of my gestures (evidently I shrug my shoulders ). Half of my staff would like more meetings (which means the other half is violently opposed to them; I know this to be true ) but, OK, I'll hold more meetings.

The team lead was told to return to work today. She sent a rather legally worded letter saying that she would not return under the present circumstances (I guess because I'm still employed-who knows) I don't know how this is going to play out, but I've asked for clarification as I have to make some major scheduling changes, and if I need to leave her out of the rotation, I'll need to know. Finally, if she does return to work, we have to play nice. Oops; there I go rolling my eyes again...

He did drop a very weird bomb. They are closing the New Hampshire lab and moving operations to Worcester, MA. I don't know what this means for my manager, as she lives with her husband in NH. Probably 13 people will be losing their jobs.

I can almost see this happening in my location. We get deliveries from the Canadian border, west to Buffalo, south to the Catskills and east into Massachusetts and Vermont. Once the stuff gets to us, it gets poured off and then forwarded to NJ at the end of the night. The company purchased a lab in Utica several years ago; I can see them setting up an operation like ours in that place. It would make more sense for Buffalo, as we are just a pass through for their work. The MA & VT work could go to Worcester. My job may not be very stable. Sounds like a normal day in the life of Sazzy...


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Default  Posted: 7:29 AM, July 25th (Friday)

Shoot, Sazzy. How many more life lessons get thrown your way before things settle? Office politics are the WORST.

Reading all this just makes me incredibly grateful for my team at work. I'm close to both of them, we hang socially and my boss always shows up with Starbucks if we're working extra hard. Bless her heart.

You have a great attitude my friend. Learning to roll with it is half the battle. You deserve SO much better.

Onward.

[This message edited by FaithFool at 7:31 AM, July 25th (Friday)]


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, July 25th (Friday)

I forgot to mention--he did bring and install the imager


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Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, July 25th (Friday)

I don't get it--why are they backing this woman up and caving in her to her bullying? Why is she even still employed there and pulling the strings?

What has HR been saying to you? Can you communicate to them that you are feeling under attack? Ugh.


Sit. Feast on your life.

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 9:25 AM, July 25th (Friday)

They're not backing her up; they are just not acting on this in hopes that she will just quit. They are terrified of being sued--even though they talk a good game. I can't tell you how many times I've been told she'll probably quit.

She starts her practicals in nursing school this fall and can't work full time; we are so swamped, a part time employee won't help (it's very difficult to replace positions once they are changed, i.e., full time to part time) and a part time team lead is of no help to me. I'm already covering for her from 4pm-5:30, and I'm not getting the work she promised from 12:30am-2am under the current arrangement.

What irks me is that they keep bringing up 'conflict'--there was NO conflict. This was all manufactured by a spoiled little bitch who saw the handwriting on the wall and decided to see what she could get out of it. She was directly involved in a situation with another employee who was unfit for the job and with whom we had to jump through hoops to get rid of. She's following that playbook.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, July 25th (Friday)

Ugh. Lazy dingbat aside, with them closing a lab and laying people off you should probably start stock-piling money and job hunting during your downtime.

I hear New Mexico is nice


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