My remorseful and now Mr. Wonderful WS took his brother ring shopping (trading in our rings for something new for BIL). He came back from the trip with brochures and ideas for the next ring he wants to get me but I can't imagine ever wanting another.
It was a little over two years ago that I threw my ring off the deck, not expecting WS to spend hours looking for it. I now like my naked finger, it is a reminder of the promise I've made to myself: That I'm not staying with this guy because we're married, because he already wrecked the commitment. I am only staying with him because I want to and I think right now it is the best thing for me and our kids. I've promised myself not to put up with any more crap.
This is a small symbol, I think of the other things I could do, like getting a divorce on paper but still living together (saving a few thou at tax time!), getting the house in condition to sell, changing my name back.
Things are going well now BUT I never imagined I would stay with someone who acted like such an ass for so long and cheated. I need to remind myself that I'm not staying again.