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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 3:15 PM, August 19th (Tuesday)

(summary stolen from another site) Woman (Quinn) makes a flash based game (more of one of those text based choose your own adventure things) about battling depression [really good game, I might add]. The game receives critical acclaim from gaming journalist websites, and makes its way onto Steam. Quinn's ex boyfriend releases chat logs about her cheating on him with various men. Some of these men are key players in gaming journalism, and are responsible for the positive press Quinn's game received.

More details: http://kc-vidya-rants.tumblr.com/post/95004433478/zoe-quinns-kotaku-staff-cheating-scandal-and-how-she

Article brings up an interesting point --

"This is a woman who said she had principles about sex - that someone cheating on someone else means the sex with their actual partner IS NOT CONSENSUAL."

Which when I think about it makes sense and is a point I agree with. I don't think it's overblown, either. I think when someone agrees to only sleep with you and violates that agreement in secret, and continues to have sex with you, it's non consensual.

Further playing around with semantics --

"Marital rape, also known as spousal rape, is non-consensual sex in which the perpetrator is the victim's spouse. As such, it is a form of partner rape, of domestic violence, and of sexual abuse." (Wikipedia)

These may not work as legal definitions, but I don't think they're a big stretch from the truth.


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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holesinmybucket
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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, August 19th (Tuesday)

Wow!! This is so true. One of my overwhelming feelings within days of dday was that I had been violated. Never really thought of it in this way, but it really makes me think

Thanks for sharing


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him:WH 37 (Dr. Jekyll)
DDay: 1/1/14
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TheIrishGirl
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Default  Posted: 3:37 PM, August 19th (Tuesday)

I asked two questions before sleeping with WH: 1) are you seeing anybody else? No. 2) are you willing to keep it that way? Yes. He made that promise to me WAY before we were married. And the fact that he broke that one hurts almost as much as the wedding vows.


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cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, August 19th (Tuesday)

yes, it is such a violation.

My MC/IC, said to me after dday #2, he is a rapist. He raped your soul.

That still comes into my thoughts, my feelings, I do feel like he raped me.


"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"

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