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Before You Say Reconcile...

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sisoon posted 1/14/2018 16:57 PM

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minusone posted 2/7/2018 20:28 PM

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Skan posted 2/9/2018 18:18 PM

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sisoon posted 2/21/2018 09:03 AM

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sisoon posted 3/3/2018 12:48 PM

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sassylee posted 3/12/2018 12:39 PM

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squid posted 3/15/2018 14:38 PM

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minusone posted 4/23/2018 20:13 PM

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sisoon posted 5/13/2018 12:31 PM

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Tesoro321 posted 5/14/2018 11:00 AM

This is so helpful. Thank you for posting! (& bumping)

sisoon posted 5/26/2018 13:44 PM

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heartbroken_kk posted 6/15/2018 12:58 PM

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sisoon posted 6/28/2018 17:42 PM

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Skan posted 7/4/2018 13:42 PM

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Phoenix1 posted 7/14/2018 11:38 AM

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sisoon posted 7/24/2018 12:51 PM

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sisoon posted 8/6/2018 13:15 PM

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BearlyBreathing posted 8/23/2018 11:03 AM

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Aoife620 posted 8/24/2018 09:54 AM

I have a question about this...

After doing a lot more reading here, it seems remorse is not a usual immediate occurrence after DDay.
After reading the four pillars here in comparison to rug-sweeping I was afraid that my WH is more inbetween the two or even more leaning towards rug-sweeping.
I had him just read those 4 things last night and before I could even ask him, he said, "I'm more like the rug-sweeping"
So...I'm concerned. But then I think, he's aware of it at least. And again, we're only a few months out. Years of pent up angry feelings he is now finally trying to work through and I'm also working through my anger for the A.
So, should there be concern in this situation? I recently read here where it was 8-9 months out before the WS really became remorseful. So, it seems real remorse comes later rather than earlier? Just would like some opinions.
And thanks for posting this again or bumping it! It's very informative and helpful.

sassylee posted 8/24/2018 11:04 AM

Aowife- excellent questions. My concern is that this thread is no longer used much for discussion - it is bumped for the clarity of the initial post. I donít know how much traffic your questions will get here on the last page of this bullseyed thread.

I suggest you ask this in general or JFO or even reconciliation (your choice) and mention youíve read this thread and ask your questions again.

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