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LS_Betrayed (original poster member #33697) posted at 2:53 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
it just doesn't anymore. OW has been taking on more 'responsibility' for my kids ... she has had to drive them to sports etc, or cook for them, watch them on a Saturday while STBXWH works.
I don't love it, but a part of me is like, welcome to REALITY baby...
My SO is visiting next weekend, and OW and STBXWH have 100% responsibility for the kids... about time right?
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
WhiteWolfWinning ( member #12475) posted at 3:05 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply, Speak kindly. Leave the rest to God
Thank you, Lord, for the lightness of my burdens
LS_Betrayed (original poster member #33697) posted at 4:12 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
I finally am getting some time to myself, and OW is finally getting the whole deal... ha ha ha
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
WarehouseGuy ( member #6037) posted at 4:19 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
I'm sure my Ex's new soul mate never counted on a kid and 2 dogs when he decided to take on the role either--but tough shit--that's part of the package.
I'm glad you are getting some "me" time. You deserve it. 
WHG 
If you see your ex with someone else don't be jealous. Our parents taught us to give our old,used toys to the less fortunate.
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 4:21 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
Let her experience the "real deal" 
Because, while I adore my kids, teens can be annoying, difficult, contrary, etc....lol.
Enjoy LS
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
LS_Betrayed (original poster member #33697) posted at 4:29 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
Oh yes Persevere... I love mine, but yeah...
I pity her a little, she HAS to be nice (I can yell if I want)
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 4:30 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
I pity her a little, she HAS to be nice (I can yell if I want)
No kidding! But, hey, all choices have consequences baby....
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
LS_Betrayed (original poster member #33697) posted at 4:32 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
No kidding! But, hey, all choices have consequences baby....
yeppers
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 5:08 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
Good! I'm glad to hear it! It's about time he shouldered some of the responsibility, and if she has to do so as well, even better.
Yeah, as much as the idea of having the OW take care of my three kids makes me feel ill, I also think, "Good luck, honey. I'm sure you'll think they're a blast when they're fighting every five minutes and shrieking loudly enough to wake the dead."
Enjoy your well-deserved free time. Go get a pedicure for me, would you? Boy, I would love one right now!
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
LS_Betrayed (original poster member #33697) posted at 5:17 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
Exactly and they can use THEIR gas to drive my kids around....
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
LostandGuilty ( member #30493) posted at 5:51 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
I hated that the OM used to watch my kids while my XWW was at work and they were at her house. Then one day, my DD called me up hysterical to come pick her up. She told me that she had a fight with her brother over chores and the OM was being mean. I talked her down and she calmed down some, but was still crying. She then said, "OM wants to talk to you" and handed me the phone before I could say anything. He sounded so in over his head with an 11-year old girl who is a little bit of a drama queen. I told him that I do not care about him and just put my daughter back on the phone. I had to drop some stiff off to her anyways, so I told her that I would be there in 10 minutes. When I got there she was better. I told her to go back inside and do her chores. She said that the OM already did them. She then said, "Daddy, I think that I scared OM." I did not let her see me, but I laughed on the way back to my house. I thought to myself that if he wanted my life, he finally has it. The difference is that I know how to handle MY kids and they would NEVER act like that to me.
"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on" - Robert Frost
BH (36)
DS (16)
DD (14)
LS_Betrayed (original poster member #33697) posted at 7:06 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
I did not let her see me, but I laughed on the way back to my house. I thought to myself that if he wanted my life, he finally has it. The difference is that I know how to handle MY kids and they would NEVER act like that to me.
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Exit Wounds ( member #32811) posted at 7:43 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
Exit WoundsH of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.
LS_Betrayed (original poster member #33697) posted at 7:51 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
Just me, LS, just me...
???
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
LostandGuilty ( member #30493) posted at 7:53 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
Moody, cranky, bored, whining, fighting hormone-filled teenagers (and pre-teens) are exactly what the OPs were thinking about when they thought our lives were what they wanted to live. Right? I wonder why the relationships usually collapses within the year when "playing house" becomes real life.
"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on" - Robert Frost
BH (36)
DS (16)
DD (14)
LS_Betrayed (original poster member #33697) posted at 8:05 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
Moody, cranky, bored, whining, fighting hormone-filled teenagers (and pre-teens) are exactly what the OPs were thinking about when they thought our lives were what they wanted to live. Right? I wonder why the relationships usually collapses within the year when "playing house" becomes real life.
I know and OW? She JUST got rid of her own--
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Exit Wounds ( member #32811) posted at 8:12 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
Just me, LS, just me...
???
That is me laughing my ass off about said whore using her gas, living the reality of what she fought so hard for
Exit WoundsH of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.
LS_Betrayed (original poster member #33697) posted at 8:14 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
Weatherly ( member #18222) posted at 9:20 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
X and OW broke up, but the last several months I quit being bothered by it. She got my asshole ex, and had to babysit for me, for free, every other weekend, after late nights at work. This amused me a bit.
Me-33 ,Two boys, 13 and 14
It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end
Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.
LS_Betrayed (original poster member #33697) posted at 9:21 PM on Thursday, July 19th, 2012
LOL Weatherly... I try to look at it as pushing them forward to their eventual break up.
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
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