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I started a thread like this in NB a month or so ago after reading an article recommending that every day people make a short list of three things that were positive today.

I think it might be even more important to try to think of some good things here in D/S, when we're still mired in the drama and not quite yet able to begin a new life!

I'll start:

1. I have access to unlimited (at least for my needs) clean, cool drinking water.

2. I finally figured out how to talk on my new phone, not on speakerphone. (I should read the manual because I'm sure there are tons of other things I should be able to do!)

3. One of my parrots has really come out of his shell since XWH has gone (the bird always hated him!) Tonight I decided to do some trick training with him, and he picked up so quickly and was so proud of himself. It was great!!! I can't wait until he learns some more complicated stuff!

Love this! I love your parrot trick thing, BTW!

1 - I have access to college, counselors, career training, and other avenues to try and make a better life for myself & my children.

2 - I am alive. I literally thank God every morning when I wake up for another day of life.

3 - Air conditioning.

NatureGirl I love your number 3! I wish I could say the same...no a/c here. LOL

1. Hearing my two sons giggling and playing

2. My three cats who made sure I didn't have the big bed all to myself this morning...

3. Having the walk in closet in the bedroom all to myself. Now I can see all my shoes and my handbags can breathe!!

1. I have three kids who tell me they love me all the time. That helps after they spend the day arguing.

2. The weather has cooled off and is downright lovely here right now.

3. My Divorce Care class has been so uplifting and given me a lot to think about; I think it has played an important role in my healing process.

1. I have time for my selfishness without the nagging of a time consuming SO/W.

2. I can make any meal I want.

3. I can drive my car that I want now.

Love the Happy Thread idea, much needed during hard times!

1. My cozy, warm and sweet home, on a quiet little street with friendly neighborhood and the giggles and squeals of happy kids running around.

2. Bear hugs every night from Thing One and Thing Two (my little boys.)

3. My girlfriends. And my mom. I would be in a ditch somewhere by now if it wasn't for their support and love!

**We only got 3, but it was hard for me not to include my daily ritual of a grande iced doubleshot at Starbucks. Why hide it, I'm hopelessly addicted to these and it's what gets me out of bed in the morning.

OMG!

1. I think I'm really starting to come out of my BS fog.

2. I have lots of non-dating options for going out and learning to talk to other single people.

3. My ever growing circle of friends, support system.

1. Teslet crawling into my bed in the middle of the night because I can make the bad dreams go away

2. Waking up to a cool morning where I have to pull on a sweatshirt.

3. Thinking about stbx but then immediately thinking, "I'm so glad I don't have to deal with that anymore." And meaning it!!!

1. My S, who, even tho he is far away, feels close.

2. My sweet dogs.

3. My home, that is free now of negative energy so I can create again! :)

Great exercise.

I'll play!

1) I'm having a GNO tonight with my girlfriends from work. They have really, really been there for me throughout this and I can't wait to see them tonight.

2) I'm going on vaca next week with my kiddos and my sister & family to the ocean.

3) I know I'm going to be ok.

We only got 3, but it was hard for me not to include my daily ritual of a grande iced doubleshot at Starbucks. Why hide it, I'm hopelessly addicted to these and it's what gets me out of bed in the morning.

You can always do more. When we do this in NB, Capri will often list like 9, and it improves my mood every single time :)

Today's three:

1. My new phone suddenly stopped working today, but I was able to restart it and it seems to be working fine now. In the past, I would have just asked XWH to figure it out.

2. My new coworkers (I've been there 3.5 months) are just amazing and make me feel so welcomed. I had that at my old job, and never thought I'd be so lucky as to find that kind of work environment twice.

3. It's cooled off and I'm just about to go for a run on my course that happens to include the most beautiful scenery in the state. I love my new neighborhood!

1) Out in San Diego working this week and have been staying with my wonderful little sister.

2) Watched my 9 year old niece jump in the Pacific Ocean and swim with her clothes on.

3) Went to Tijuana today for the first time and had a great meeting with a customer and a very nice lunch where I ate too much

and Bonus

4) Went to a spinning class tonight that my sister taught. It was awesome and my sister really impressed me with her fitness. She is awesome!

1) I have the most amazing son. Many people complain about their teenagers, but my 14 year-old is an amazing young man.

2) I am a 7th grade teacher and I love every minute of my job. Some days I can't believe I get paid to do what I love.

3) I'm going camping for 5 days with my family!!

1 - My IC.

2 - Pizza

3 - Now that STBX is gone, my kids have been able to make friends in the neighborhood. While yes, today the noise got on my nerves, I lovelovelovelove that my home was filled with the sounds of happy kids screaming & laughing & having fun. No ogre STBX was going to stomp in & tell everyone to be quiet, no one was going to get yelled at, and my kids finally have the reality of neighborhood friends who can come to play! (Now I just need to get more friends!)

1. I may not have made it to court to get divorced today, but I still have health insurance.

2. No matter how bad things get, I still have my integrity.

3. I can breathe easier and smile knowing that my God has been walking this path with me. Its almost over and I didn't die from that huge hole I had in my heart and soul.

1. I sold my rings today so I have money for a new laywer (hopefully).

2. I applied to a really really good paying job for which I am perfectly qualified for and hope I get.

3. In 12 hours I see my son. He puts a smile on my face every day.

1. Thinking of things to do FOR ME for a change.

2. Truly enjoyed going to the movies with DD and sister. Then went home to watch some more movies. I want to marry Batman...

3. Almost finished a bucket of popcorn......appetite is surely coming back.

1. My son is in a golf tourney Saturday. Was wondering if X and her Dad were going and if he wanted me to go since it would be awkward. Our financial settlement has not Been pleasant. He came over today to say he absolutely wanted me there to watch him and that he told x and her Dad not to come. He thanked me for getting him interested in golf. He was second in the region last year a day after x moved out.

2. DD is fixing salmon for us tonight.

3. Got back from a trip last night and my loyal Corgis are all over me!

[This message edited by Bebba1171 at 5:48 PM, August 9th (Thursday)]

1.DS12 gets out of camp tomorrow and that means I can finally talk to him...which I haven't done in 8 weeks.

2. My parents are the best...took me in no questions asked...siblings too!

3. My birds and cat sharing a small 12x12 room with me right now...lots of togetherness but also loving...nothing says love like an 18 lb cat on your chest in a twin bed :)

1. Work was just amazing today. I was in the office of one of the major bigwigs, working on a project with him. He stopped in the middle of our discussion to tell me how every single person in the department has been raving about me (I just started less than 4 months ago), how they don't know what they'd do without me, I've helped out beyond their wildest expectations, are my ears ringing, etc. It felt so awesome. If I were still with XWH, I never would have taken this job. He's the coworker I most respect, so to hear him say this to me was unbelievable.

2. Just got back from a great run. The rain stopped for me, and it made the sky above the lake even more beautiful. Prettier than a postcard. Wish I'd had my camera, but I probably would have ruined it with my sweat!

3. The parrot I mentioned in this first post? He is really taken to trick training! We're working on the concept of he gets a treat when he beaks a straw and I make a click sound. That's to reinforce that click = "I like what you're doing so you get a treat." It's the foundation for future trick training. The real test today was if I offer, equidistant, the treat and the straw -- he needs to beak the straw, knowing that if he does so he will get the treat (as opposed to just going for the treat.) And he did it 7 out of 10 times!!!

I am just so proud of him. He was quite neglected/abused in his previous home, so it's great to see him learning and so proud of himself.

4. Can't stop at 3!!! When I was married, I had a less stressful job, so I cooked healthy meals every night. Now, I work longer hours and run at night, so I don't have time. I have discovered that Trader Joe's has amazing, relatively healthy frozen dinners. I know I need to get back to cooking more (maybe on Sunday for the week?) but for right now, this is a welcome stop-gap!!!

5. I am listening to Tchaikovsky's Violin Concerto in D. It is quite possibly the most beautiful music ever composed. Life is good :)