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torn2bits (original poster member #28376) posted at 1:45 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
I met him online. We never met and he suggested that we go to a sporting event that he has tickets for. I agreed.
We had talked on the phone twice and emailed a few times. On the phone he said it would just be a meeting, not a date since we never met each other before.
We meet there, he sees me. We are walking to get a drink and he says.."Let's just have some fun tonite, nevermind about you and me." Mind you he is older and wrinkled with arthritis in his hands.
I was getting a lot of attention from many different guys. They were saying hello to me as we were walking thru the crowd.
A man approaches us as we stood at the snack tables and starts talking to me and then him. I started asking this other man about himself when the guy I am with says "she just dissed me, but that's ok".
We go back to our seat. The game is half over. He told me to buy the drinks all nite since he provided the ticket. I had to pay my own parking and drive myself. He says he is going to be right back and NEVER comes back. No call, no text. NOTHING! I stayed and watched the rest of the game, but I had to walk back to the car by myself and it was late. 
Me: 45/WH (SA): 49
M: 26 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce halted
Dawnie ( member #26912) posted at 1:59 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
What a dick! Sorry this happened to you 
DIVORCED! Remarried to a real man!
BW (me) - 41 (now 48)
WH (him) - 43 (now 50)
OW - 23 yr old foreign gold digging whore looking for her American meal ticket
1 14 yr old son (now 21)
married 20 years/together 25 years
D day - 9/23/2009 5pm
Exit Wounds ( member #32811) posted at 2:15 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
OMG! I am soooo sorry this happend to you! Thank God you had your own way home! Imgaine if he had picked you up...
Move on, dust yourself off and put one foot infront of the other... it will get better!
Exit WoundsH of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 2:28 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
Wow. What an asshole. Good riddance. So sorry you had to go through this!
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
PlainsGirl29 ( member #33520) posted at 2:36 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
A jerk, you were obviously out of his league and his insecurities git the better of him. I so have anxiety about being left as I was lost in the mall at 4, I would have probably freaked out if this happened to me. Sorry t2b 
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 3:15 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
Next time you meet with someone the first time just make it a coffee date.
k9
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BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
LS_Betrayed ( member #33697) posted at 3:23 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
WOW- that is unbelievabely lame
Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough
justabrokendream ( member #3075) posted at 3:27 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
Holy Cow - what a POS - I'm glad I don't date anymore.
capri ( member #14940) posted at 3:31 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
Classy. 
Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 3:45 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
What a jerk!!!!
#1. (I guess I am from the old school). I go out with a guy, he foots the bill, period. I am not buying his drinks or his food. I may buy my own, but I am not buying his.
#2. If he just wants to meet people, go to the mall, not on line dating sites. It's then a date unless it's just coffee to begin with.
Damn this makes me scared to even ever want to date again after I D WH#2.
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 4:22 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
Bullet dodged. I agree that he panicked when he realized you were too good for him.
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 4:29 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
I am so glad you drove yourself! Can you imagine if he'd stranded you there?!
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 5:30 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
Jeez louise! Honey, I'm so sorry.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 5:37 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
And this is an example of why dating scares me. 
What a jackass. Glad you got home safely!
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
torn2bits (original poster member #28376) posted at 6:42 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
He was nothing like his online pics. Yes, he was insecure. I ALWAYS drive myself.
He didnt say anything about me paying for drinks until we got to the drink counter. The line was long so I just said ok, but I did tell him "thanks for "telling me" I am paying for drinks.
I hate dating. I have found nothing but jerks who want me to pay for a lot of things or complain about having to pay if we go out.
[This message edited by torn2bits at 1:03 PM, February 20th (Wednesday)]
Me: 45/WH (SA): 49
M: 26 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce halted
Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 6:46 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
I hate dating. I have found nothing but jerks who want me to pay for a lot of things or complain about having to pay if we go out.
There are women who online date just to get free stuff, and it would appear, men too. It's gross how nasty people can be with that little veil of anonymity.
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
asurvivor ( member #32368) posted at 8:07 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
It could have been worse, he could have stayed and wanted a kiss goodnight.
I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know.
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 9:42 PM on Wednesday, February 20th, 2013
Wow...that is rotten. What a jerk.
Lesson learned for me....ALWAYS have a vehicle or secure way home.
Not all guys are assclowns. Look on the bright side...he is not your problem and I bet this experience taught you something, and yu did get to go out and enjoy a game.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
Snapdragon ( member #4286) posted at 12:40 AM on Thursday, February 21st, 2013
I was getting a lot of attention from many different guys. They were saying hello to me as we were walking thru the crowd.
A man approaches us as we stood at the snack tables and starts talking to me and then him. I started asking this other man about himself when the guy I am with says "she just dissed me, but that's ok".
I'm confused by this. If I was out with a guy and he started chatting up a woman and asking her about herself I would be a bit put off by that.
The comment about getting attention from other guys prior to this conversation makes me wonder a number of things. But it seemed to trip his insecurities.
The rest is just weird. He should have laid out the "terms" of the "meeting" in advance. Leaving you there is just freaky.
I'm sorry you had such a bad experience. But later, you will be laughing about it as one of those experiences that people in the land of the single have.
Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.
"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink
cryingdaily ( member #7276) posted at 12:47 AM on Thursday, February 21st, 2013
Wow. Between his initial reaction and his comment about just having fun, you chatting up a random guy with him there, him telling you to buy the drinks and not talking about that beforehand, etc. it was bound end in disaster.
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