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This past weekend has been quite a ride emotionally.

I made the big decision to sell my condo, and rented a place to go to so I can stage it for a speedy sale.

When I got back from seeing my new landlady and sealing the deal (it is a sweet place, see my other thread), I had a meltdown like I have not had in a long time.

It was Ativan time even.

I started delving into why: well, aside from launching myself into the great unknown one more time, this move involves letting go of a whole bunch of stuff from my 5-year healing cycle.

Moved into the building in the spring of 2008 while selling the house we shared with my mom.

Mom stuff...

Four months later was DDay.

Infidelity stuff...

Moved into the House of Pain, then back to a different suite in the same building after the very traumatizing sale of the dream house.

Divorce stuff.

Bought the condo. My mom died before I could move in.

More mom stuff...

Moved in finally after a major window disaster finally got fixed, and spent the next two years grieving loss of mom + marriage.

Deep abandonment stuff......

When I finally move out for the last time, I'll be letting go of the first thing that was really mine, and my safe haven.

But after loooong discussions with all my besties from IRL and here on SI (thank you all!),

I have realized that letting go, as painful as it seems, will be super therapeutic. I can finally put that place, where I went through SO much, good and bad, in my rear view mirror.

Tomorrow they are shutting off the water to do some plumbing work, so I decided to check into a nice hotel that is doing a tourist-in-your-town promotion just to let someone pamper me.

I plan on long hot soaks and room service for the next couple of days, because I'm feeling a little fragile.

Will be glad to put those five years behind me and get back on the upward trajectory again.

No lie, folks... This shit takes T I M E...

[This message edited by FaithFool at 2:56 PM, March 5th (Tuesday)]

Pfew!

That's a lot of bumps.

(((((FF)))))

You'll be ok, FF. This seems like a very good decision in the long haul.

Enjoy those long soaks.

I is very jealous.

AJ's MOM

You sound VERY healthy. It does take time and work.

My 40s were a decade I would not care to repeat. Empty nest, becoming a grandparent, XWH losing a job he held for 24 years because of bankruptcy of the company, XWH's MLC A, D, my mother sinking further into dementia and health issues, death of my mother, long drawn out horrible post-D relationship with the wrong man, moving 3 times, and finally buying my own home.

The 50s feel like a vacation after that decade!

Onward and upward FF! Life starts new every day.

NL

There has been some huge bumps but we are still moving forward. They slow us down but we only hesitate for awhile to reflect.

My first 5 yrs of my 50s had mostly bumps but there were a few very positives too. I wouldn't want a repeat either.

I'm so excited for you ! Finally all ties to places will be broke. This is going to free you so there will be room for the best yet to come!

Take the time to work through and make a few new plans.

Like Serjr said: You're gonna be OK, FF !

Many good wishes for you !!

God, knows how much we've been through together in 5 yrs ! Big Hugs

Gma

((FF))

Those are bumps but those are just normal healthy bumps. Even for the healthiest amongst us, life isn't bump free.

I can't wait to see the pics of your new place

Thanks guys. I'm finally settled in to my hotel after a crazy day at work. Co worker called in sick so I was on my own. Didn't stop running all day.

Had to go home to get an overnight bag and prep the bathroom and kitchen for plumbing work tomorrow.

Dragged myself back here in the rain and now I'm in the king bed kicking back watching my favourite shows and contemplating room service. Too exhausted to go out for dinner.

It's been a day....

This is a bump not a trench! You are allowed to take time to grieve. You are not going to the depths of pain like before.

You are taking care of yourself tonight...

That is the sign of a strong spirit!

True enough.

Hexed, pics here... http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=488876

Update: breakfast has arrived.

Had a really great sleep (took a sleeping pill last night) in this huge comfy bed.

Nice hotel.

Too bad I have to work this afternoon...

((FF))

Enjoy!

Hotel comfy beds are the best for a good night's sleep!

(((((((FF))))))

sounds fantastic

Your new place is beautiful. It looks like the perfect place to be happy......

I wish you well

Thanks, I hope it all works out. I'm not looking forward to actually moving my pile again, but at least I get rid of some stuff each time... Makes you look at what you really need.

Hope to have another good sleep tonight, then the rest of this hectic work week (stunned schedule), then home again where I really have to focus on overhauling my honours thesis which is due at the end of the month.

Gah.

[This message edited by FaithFool at 7:12 PM, March 6th (Wednesday)]

I'm closing on a new house at the end of the month and just put my house on the market this week. hankfully the new house has renters that are willing to stay until my home sells.

The new house is everything I prayed for: Short Sell, on a small lake, in a cove, off a circle, close to my kids and was the floor plan I was going to build..... I'm calling it "the lake house".

I love my home but was thinking that maybe if I got another place that X has never been in, Happier days would be ahead.

Three of my friends are getting married over the next 4 weeks and I've been helping with their weddings which sometimes makes me a little sad when all the activities are over but it doesn't last long & then I'm just happy for them again.

God & time really does heal.