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Some how I am convinced that the sons dad isnt in florida like he claims. How the hell do I get to know for sure that they are wasting their time on the other address.

It sucks I love my son more than myself and I am at a point of where I cant give him what he needs. I have to take on another full time job. So son would never see me at all

he would be at the sitters from 7 am until midnight and I would only get maybe 2 days a week with him so its almost in my best interest to get him adopted. I hate it

It might be in your best interest to give him up for adoption, but it certainly isn't in his. He is four years old. He is bonded to you and it will be a horrific trauma if you do something like that.

Do NOT go talk to "adoption specialists." They will brainwash you and make you think you are no good for your son. I know this for a fact, and they can be like sweet talking vultures trying to get a child. A "Christian" adoption agency sponsored by a popular mega church in my area tried to kidnap my now 12 year old grandson from the hospital after he was born. We had to get a restraining order against them to prohibit them from taking him. My son had refused, in writing, to surrender his rights and responsibilites, and there was no compelling reason (by any stretch of the imagination) that he should. But these jokers think they are on a mission from God to place children with the families on their waiting lists. The two parent loving Christian homes that are so much more stable, you know.

Have you signed up for subsidized housing, applied for food stamps and child care assistance? Are there programs in your area to help single parent families? Do you have any family you can depend on? What about friends?

You have gotten through other rough times. You are scrappy, you can prevail nightshadow.

I can understand you're going through a very difficult time right now but can not see how putting your son up for adoption is the best or only option. I also have to wonder how adoptable a four year old child is and if he will instead, spend his childhood in a series of foster homes.

It's the quality of love, not the quantity of time spent with one's child that is most significant.

i dont qualify for any thing. I make too much? I dont see how taking home less than 1600 a month. take into account,gas, food, rent, insurance, other bills I am negative every month. and i dont life beyond my means at all.

Sorry nightshadow, have you looked for other single moms for support? What about a roomate, single mom? Co abode.com may be helpful.

Where I live its income based. So I can't have a roommate. Unless they live here for free. I'm literally stuck. On top of it I have to get a new sitter what a pain in the ass. Just wish sons dad would take him for awhile so I csm get my ducks in a row but I don't have any idea of how to get a hold of him and I know He wants nothing to do with son to top all this crap my brother quit talking to me or my sister because of us not helping to that care of my mom. I literally can't I got to much stress at the moment. Maybe I can do it after I get son in with a new sitter or my mom helping with some bills but even then I can't make it work