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So XH and OW are posting cozy pictures all over facebook, grocery shop together, do everything together, bring kids with when they are with him. I think they are both selfish and perhaps deserve each other. I am moving on, doing some amazing things, having fun. My biggest challenge is that i know the time will come when i see him and her together in public. Like when I go to my kids' activities, etc. They live about a mile from me- no together (yet). His parents and his sister, and her family also live near me. of course my family lives at least an hour away. The nice part is, I don't think i have lost any friends with this divorce. He's been so into OW and for so long, I dont know if he has any. So the friends are all mine. And everyone saw what he did (esp since they posted on facebook about a week after D was final). Still, i really lost myself in this relationship, so I'm working on this friends thing. He wants to be friends and pretend none of this happened. I dont want to be his friend. I dont want to sit by him. I dont want to talk to him. I will be okay sitting by myself before I sit by him. I just need a way to mentally deal. For some reason, i feel some sort of shame, and I dont know why. I didn't do this. i was working or taking care of the kids while he was cheating. Which is why I dont have alot of friends-Yet. I'm excited cuz I joined a meetup group and I found a neighborhood friend who also joined, and we are going to an event on friday together. But I want to enjoy my kids events without "feeling" dirty looks from ex-family members, or being uncomfortable.

My first suggestion would be to stop reading his Facebook page. Block the both of them so you don't have to see them.

What they are doing is pretty normal for an affair couple. They have to prove to everyone that their love is special and their relationship is valid, because right now everyone knows they are cheaters. You have nothing to be ashamed of so do yourself a favor and IGNORE their bullshit!

Push the ignore button.

I am not there yet but I have seen my ex and OW in a public setting. I never knew her and she came up to me saying "Hi" and being nice. Luckily I was more shocked and confused by her to be that way.

If it was at my child's event, I would be there for my child and disregard them. If I knew I wasn't able to do that emotionally, I would bring along a friend to distract me or make it more like a fun event and they would just be faces in the crowd.

I felt ashamed like you did especially when people came up to me when they recognized my child and not me b/c him and OW went around town w/my child before I knew. It took me a long time but I realize now that it is more a reflection of him than me. The more it made me ashamed the more I made it seem to them and myself and those around me I must have done something wrong and that was not the case. Especially for your child hold your head up high and show him how to be strong because you did nothing wrong.

Thanks for the thoughts. It helps to know that this is just normal for an affair couple. It seems amazing to me... The boldness of it and being so public with it all. I just look for ways to deal...