Its a birthday gift. We've been together almost 3 years and consistently have pleasurable peaceful dates. Putting photos together from the last years, our camping times, hikes, Halloween costumes, dancing dates all in one time condensed book gives the effect that we are some wildly successful amazing in love couple. It's kind of weird! I don't think of us in any starry eyed way. But looking at these pages of us being loving together is a big self-esteem booster all the same.
Sure we have had times where we didn't click and felt bad and there are no photos of that. So far we have talked through everything with kindness and spaciousness. Not everything is perfectly resolved but we move forward and have great times.
Last night I was exhausted from a long week and so appreciated that he cooked me a fabulous meal and rented a movie for us. When I let him know how wonderfully nurturing this was for me at a time I really needed it he said it made him happy to do this for me. And I know he was tired too.
Scrapbooks are a lot of work, fun to create but very time consuming. But it is beautiful to see how many loving moments we have shared. It's like each fun time, each pleasure shared are like bricks very slowly building a solid structure for a loving relationship.
I rushed these things so much in the past, so anxious to get close with a man so I could feel secure in his affection. i did this with XH, and then ignored so many painful moments where he hurt me before we were married, where he cleary was not a man who got happy from making me happy. So many red flags ignored!
I also missed so much pleasure by rushing the process.
This scrapbook is making me realize how important it is to savor the moments and not lose that in some worried rush to 'solidify' a connection. My SO and I have created something pretty cool together and I can't wait to give him this book.
