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Sunnie (original poster member #33406) posted at 2:57 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
This week I will have to end my first NB "relationship". Ugh. It sucks. Not that I was ready for it anyway but when I dove in I thought why not and now I know why!
So here's the background: 4 weeks ago this friend of mine who is not a close friend but part of my social circle for the last 5+ years declared his love for me. We went out on a date but he was so intense that I had to have the "talk" with him saying that I'm not ready for a serious relationship but I would like to date him and see where it goes. The week after we had an amazing movie/dinner date. The next week we went out again and he said he really likes me and would like to be exclusive with me. I'm not seeing anyone else anyway so I said yes. Last Friday we had another really nice date. Today we met up for coffee and he said he isn't ready for the responsibility of a relationship with a newly single woman 
That's it for me. This is just too complicated. When I started dating him I was just starting to enjoy being single. I really do not need this right now. He is really hot. But so it goes.
Me: BS (32)
Together: 14 years
DDay: May 18, 2011
Separation date: November 18, 2012
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 3:04 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
This guy sounds like a mess! I think you're going to be better off without his breed of drama llama in your life. 
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Sunnie (original poster member #33406) posted at 3:13 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
I HATE drama. I would barely put up with it for someone who was in my life for a long time. There is no way I am putting up with it from someone who I've been dating for 4 weeks.
Me: BS (32)
Together: 14 years
DDay: May 18, 2011
Separation date: November 18, 2012
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 3:14 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
Sounds like you dodged a bullet Sunnie. Glad he didn't drag it out.
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
ManBearDivorce ( member #36258) posted at 3:27 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
I just don't get these men and women. They are just confused little kids in a grown up body.
exhausted lady ( member #30217) posted at 4:26 AM on Tuesday, March 19th, 2013
Good grief! Talk about hot & cold.....and playing games.
Next!!!! 
Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr
birdy ( member #30937) posted at 6:27 AM on Tuesday, March 19th, 2013
Game players. Games SUCK. I'm sorry.
SweetheartVixen ( member #4956) posted at 3:39 PM on Wednesday, March 20th, 2013
Wow I had enough games in my marriage. I wonder if Im cut out for this.
I can imagine after that beginning that you were stunned. He sounds like a mixed up person. You dodged a bullet.
BS/60s WS/60s Divorcing and not soon enough~!
Its nice to be important, but its more important to be nice...
DD 6-14
Ready_to_run ( member #20954) posted at 3:59 PM on Wednesday, March 20th, 2013
he said he isn't ready for the responsibility of a relationship with a newly single woman
Nice how he managed to subtly shift the blame on you for being newly single.
MyVoice ( member #35695) posted at 9:15 PM on Wednesday, March 20th, 2013
What an idiot!Well at least it was a short drama and a big experience for you to get out of the way early in your dating career!
Dating is fun, don't give up just tread gentling and always take it very slowly.
Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown
Sunnie (original poster member #33406) posted at 11:26 PM on Thursday, March 21st, 2013
He is really weird. Fortunately now he's just my weird "friend"
I'm really not sure what he was after or if he knows what he wants. Total child in grown man's body.
I hate games and drama. I really don't think I want to date now, right now I mean. I can't commit either and can't give anything emotionally. I will date again someday someday but I really truly want to enjoy being single without any responsibilities or care for someone else. Looking forward to next weekend when I have nothing to do and can sit in my pjs and watch some reality tv show garbage all day 
Me: BS (32)
Together: 14 years
DDay: May 18, 2011
Separation date: November 18, 2012
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