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dlmos (original poster member #36839) posted at 5:06 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
My head I mean, get your minds out of the gutter 
I noticed in a few recent pictures my hairline isn't what it used to be...and I'm only 30!! WTF!? Its not super thin or anything, just...argh...walking slowly away. And I'm the only one in my family this is happening to! Argh....
So what's the consesus on men with shaved heads? Shave or no shave?
And did I mention argh? 
BH (32)
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persevere ( member #31468) posted at 5:14 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
Okay, I'm a bit older than you and I love the whole bald thing, but since I just saw you in person I can say that I don't think it's an issue for you currently.
You are very attractive and your hairline is not an issue from what I saw.
So it's whatever you are comfortable with. Just my opinion. 
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InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 5:20 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
No need to shave if it is a receding hairline. If it is a circle on the top of the head and you are tempted to do a comb over then shave.
I've been with shaved bald heads for a while and I find them attractive and they smell nice.
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CharlieFoxtrot ( member #38010) posted at 5:30 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
No
You still have a very strong hairline, no worries there!!
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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 5:36 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
I don't think you're quite at that point 
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Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 5:39 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
Dlmos, I just saw you and you look great. No need to get drastic on us.
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
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woundedby2 ( member #18522) posted at 5:54 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
DL, no way. You look great. Hold off on shaving that head.
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lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 1:39 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
Okay, I'm a bit older than you and I love the whole bald thing, but since I just saw you in person I can say that I don't think it's an issue for you currently.
You are very attractive and your hairline is not an issue from what I saw.
So it's whatever you are comfortable with. Just my opinion.
Ditto
I saw you all weekend and never once thought "man, that dude really needs to shave his head". 
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 2:08 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
No need to shave your head. But you do need to learn to do some salsa dancing. Punky agrees with me on that.
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 2:44 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
After examing many g2g pictures down in F&G (and after figuring out which one you were ) I don't think you need to shave it.
I have a few guy friends who have shaved their heads due to receeding hairlines over the years, and the general consensus is that once you shave it, there's no going back. At 30, do you really want to pick your hairstyle for the next 60 years?
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spareparts ( member #33434) posted at 2:50 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
As a 31 yr old who already had to make this decision at 25.... and having looked at your pictures in the G2G thread, I'd recommend not shaving it.
I did at 25 and as Amazonia says there is no going back that's it now. But it is not the only hair cut I could have, I could go totally Cue ball... so there are always options!
On the plus side, a bottle of shampoo lasts ages. Drying your hair now takes 30 seconds... Combs? who needs em! Spend ages ensuring your hair is in place before going out? Not me!
Plus you know what they say about bald men.... You can always buy them a hat!
curiouswiz ( member #34405) posted at 2:54 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
You guys have all gotten together?! Was there a BS convention? LMAO! Picturing that in my head...
For all men: Women love a man with or without hair. HOWEVER please never ever do a comb over of any sort. Worse still? A lousy combover hidden most of the time under a cap. I was shocked when a man took his cap off and showed the thin combover. I had known him for years and never knew. Boy was it ugly.
Soooo....when and where is the next broken heart convention? 
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 3:04 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
oh, curiouswiz, you are obvious long overdue for a trip down to Fun and Games, the bottom of the barrel forum at the end of the page.
Just, ah, have a drink to dull your senses before you head in.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
curiouswiz ( member #34405) posted at 3:22 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
Well! Thanks for the invite Amazonia! I have an actual date tonight then! With you nutcakes! Hmmm ... what to drink? 
dlmos (original poster member #36839) posted at 3:28 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
Lol, I guess its not as bad as I thought! I just never want to be that guy with the horrible comb over who's fooling no-one... I actually was pretty happy with my haircut I just didn't think it looked so good in the pictures.
Curiouswiz - swing by fun and games for sure, there are 2 or 3 more gtg planned around the country, I HIGHLY recommend going to one if you can, they are a blast!
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dlmos (original poster member #36839) posted at 3:38 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
Oh and I am totally going to learn to dance. I plan on giving you two a run for your money at the next G2G!
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DS - 7, DD - 6
Divorced
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 8:22 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
dlmos, I cannot wait to see that.
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 8:29 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
dlmos, I cannot wait to see that.
Add me to the I cannot wait line.
Hugs,
K
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MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 8:34 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
Oh and I am totally going to learn to dance. I plan on giving you two a run for your money at the next G2G!
Awesome
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 9:38 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013
Moo, you and Punky did make it look like fun
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
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