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I had company over to my house after work. Some of the girls from work celebrated surviving to Friday at my house. Everyone was gone by 7pm- It was no wild or crazy night!

Afterwards, I had a migraine that came on super fast and hard. The nausea was first and before I could treat with my meds I was hugging the toilet and emptying my stomach. It was the kind of migraine that ends with dry heaves and laying on the bathroom floor waiting to die.

My kids had a friend over after school. When his parents showed up to pick him up, I couldn't even drag myself out of the bathroom. The shame I felt and the urge to "pretend" I felt good enough to greet them led only to another round of dry heaves and bile which burned the back of my throat... So I lay against the side of the tub and croaked apologies through the bathroom door.

The next thing I hear is my DS asking if he can call his dad. "Of course honey." I can't blame him for wanting to get away from me... and I am useless. The boys haven't had supper. Their dad can feed them.

I hear DS11 on the phone. He had a question about the birthday invitations his dad had made for him to send home. He tells his dad "mom is sick." and then he gives the phone to his brother.

DS8 says to his father, "mom has a migraine. She drank too much wine." Then he says, "I am taking care of her." awwww... They hang up and DS11 says to DS8, I am making supper. What do you want? I am too nauseous to correct the wine statement, care what their dad thinks or to commend them for fixing dinner.

The phone rings. Their dad has called back to ask if he needs to pick up the boys if I am "too sick." DS11 repeats the question to me. I tell him honestly that I am not good for anything tonight beyond sleeping the headache off if they want to go with their dad... DS11 says into the phone, "No, we are staying here. We'll keep mom company and take care of her."

After encouragement to come out of the bathroom, I make it 15 feet to the couch where I pass out with a trashcan handy. I woke up an hour ago with a minor "ghost headache" and a pain in my side, and a cold damp washcloth on my forehead. Apparently I was laying on DS8's library book.

DS8 was upstairs asleep. DS11 had hugged me as he was headed to bed. He reminded me to set the alarm for soccer in the am and went to bed. I checked the house and the doors are locked. My heart is full. I have two sweet and responsible boys.... Sometimes I hate that they have had to step up in many of the ways that they have had to but I am super proud of the young men they are and of the character they exhibit. I hope that this will carry over to the am and will help keep me warm at soccer practice early tomorrow morning!

Aawwww caregiver. That is awesome that your boys would step up and take care of you when you are ill. They are showing a lot of responsibility which is a good thing!

I'm sorry you had to deal with the migraine though. I've had those. They are awful!

[This message edited by NaiveAgain at 11:19 PM, March 22nd (Friday)]

This story was too funny. Sweet boys!! :)

So sweet...

I just want to give your boys a big hug!! Glad you are feeling better.

Those are a great pair of boys your raising there! You should be very proud

So sorry about your migraines . . . but LOVE your boys!!! What a pair of sweethearts!

It is a good way for our children to learn tenderness and caring. Their taking care of you is a very good thing! What sweet children. Funny about the "too much wine" theory! Have fun at soccer today CG!!

That is so great that your boys stood by you like that.

Sweet, sweet kids.

What sweet boys you have!! I hope mine will take care of me one day.

Awesome young men, caregiver. They take after their momma.

Hope you're feeling better today.

K

awesome kids!!!

FYI, it may have been the wine. Was it red? The technique they use to ferment red grapes is a migraine trigger to some people. I can not have a sip or I have a full blown, out of no where, migraine like you described.

http://www.finewineandgoodspirits.com/webapp/wcs/stores/WineandSpirits/learnentertain/entertain/wine_sensitivities.html

Thanks to all who shared! I survived soccer inside the car with the heat on.

I felt much better today but sore... A bit fragile like I was made of glass. stupid migraines...

Yes to the wine question - it was red. I know wine can be a trigger for me and IF I had thought I would probably have skipped wine yesterday. Even though that wine is one I have had many times without consequence, for me, triggers are cumulative and I KNEW I had been exposed to several environmental triggers (car exhaust fumes from multiple cars) already on that day. I am sure the migraine was there just below the surface and the wine was the final straw.

I swore off of wine for several years after the last migraine from red wine... so perhaps the two bottles in the cabinet will "age" awhile...

Those boys are awesome and a testament to the possibility of raising children better than their father's example. I also feel like they are a product of the guidance of SI... many times I had my focus redirected by wise souls here on the boards and I certainly had my confidence rebuilt when I screwed up in the parenting department.

Happy Saturday peeps!