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Just curious for those who are actively dating - how long do you know someone before you add them on Facebook? And why.

Never.

Because I don't want them seeing my friends.

And when things don't work out (and they haven't so far), there's not the awkwardness of wondering if they're stalking me. Or having to "unfriend" me.

I usually follow the mans lead which seems to be a month or two. I have yet to ever add another person as 'in a relationship with' (other than STBXWH).

Whenever he requests me. I have no problems unfriending after a breakup if needed.

I would not send a request, but I would accept a request at any point, and then just unfriend if we stopped seeing each other.

Due to my work, I never post anything that I wouldn't mind seeing on the front page of the Wall Street Journal, so I've got no reason not to.

I have always maintained a very open facebook page with lots of mere acquaintences as "friends". I usually accept all friend requests except for people I really dont know. So its not a personal page, more a public one. I send friend requests to people I've met once on a bike ride and had one good conversation with them. So I would friend someone almost immediately.

I hide annoying people from my news feed and rarely unfriend anyone. I also dont post cryptic or depressing status updates and keep my content employer background check clean. Ymmv

It's varied depending on the person and the level of contact. I'm still FB friends with one guy I dated for 2-3 months.

I would never friend request them though.

I would have to be committed to that person.

My FB page is about family and friends and my kid. I don't add mere acquaintances and I don't accept them either.

Thing is, he can't find me. My profile is almost impossible to find unless I have mutual friends with someone.

This whole meeting someone the old fashioned way is still so foreign to me. I want to profile to pour over to glean information!

This whole meeting someone the old fashioned way is still so foreign to me. I want to profile to pour over to glean information

The thing about that is, what kind of information are you really getting? Sure, some people post stupid crap and weed themselves out pretty quickly but my FB profile doesn't have anything on it that I wouldn't want my grandma to see. There is nothing about my ex cheating, nothing about my divorce... Probably way too many pictures of my dogs and camping trips but it really is only the side of myself that I want to present.

I didn't add him until we had been dating for a year. Neither of us is active on FB though. I might post 2-3 times a year.

It took a couple of months to add SO. I didn't add anyone just because they sent a request. I didn't want just anyone to have access to my pictures/life. I rarely post anything about my kids' father.

I am still 'friends' with someone I went out with for a few months before meeting SO 16 months ago.

[This message edited by GrievingMommy at 4:00 PM, March 24th (Sunday)]

Usually right away. I think with SO it was like 2 weeks or so after we met. If that.

I want to friend them quickly so that my friends can Facebook stalk them and tell me what they think, LOL.

I like to add someone quickly too. It proves that they are (more likely) who they say they are and that they are likeable enough to have "friends" at least online friends.

I keep my FB clean and without drama. It is however a pretty good snapshot of me.

yeah, what dck said.

This is timely.

I've met "someone". (yeah, OK, whatever...lol)

We haven't even mentioned FB. I'm very participatory; there's nothing weird except maybe my adoration of Nick Lowe, but I digress :D

He's on there - I found his profile, but it's locked down as is mine.

It's just not anything earth-shatteringly important for either of us, apparently.

We were out for dinner last night and while we were waiting for seating, he pointed out that of the dozen or so couples sitting there, we were the only ones actually talking to one another. Everyone was buried in their iPhones.

Hope4

When I was OLD we usually became FB friends before we had a first date or within a date or two.

I want to profile to pour over to glean information!

^^^ This is me too. I can learn alot about someone from their profile. Sometime more than I actually learn on the first few date (people are usually on their best behavior).

If your emailing this guy maybe send him your facebook link in a casual email.

Just friend request him Ama. It’s just opening an extra line of communication. If he reads more into it than that, either he likes you and sees it as a good sign, or he judges you for it and is a pompous douche. So it's pretty much all win all around, because waiting won’t fix the latter, it will just conceal it longer.

crescita, I'm still trying to decide how much I like him.

Maybe after another date or two. We've only met three times now.

Good topic because I've instituted a new corporate dating policy for SeanFLA, Inc.

I don't become FB friends with anyone I'm dating, seeing, etc. It's just too awkward regardless. Especially if the one you are dating is a FB fanatic and judges your relationship in part by what you post on there about your relationship. For some I believe it's a self esteem issue. That they need to show the world they have a life and not sitting home alone dateless. Well FakeBook fans, I personally don't like friends or family gawking at my new gf in FB pics, etc. It's none of their business. Plus I have a tweenie now and he doesn't need to be exposed in any manner to Dad's dating life. People who know me on here, that I am FB friends with, generally know that I post about anything except whom I'm dating. So for now I'm being upfront if they ask to be friends I will tell them "no" (for now) and see where the relationship leads. I've learned my lesson with it. All of us dated and married fine before FakeBook came along. I hate when people think it's some kind of requirement these days.