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So I'm pretty dense when it comes to signals from girls...and I'm pretty sure I missed one. So here's what happened:

So I had to get my security badge renewed today and a cute girl happened to be doing it. While she was typing away on the computer we were having a pleasant conversation, nothing special just chit chat. She had a couple visible tattoos and I complemented one because it was pretty unique. She said she had noticed mine and complemented it. She is joked about how she always sees my engine running calls in her area. She joked about how many brothers I had in the department and asked if my wife or girlfriend worked there too (this I think was the signal I missed). I just laughed and said no and moved on with the conversation.

She asked if I had a good Easter and I said yes, mentioned my DD was happy because its her birthday and gets two parties in one week. I made a joke about giving her a bunch of birthday cake and sending her back to her mons. She laughed a lot, not awkward laugh but she seemed real nice and got embarrassed when she had a computer issue. When she finished I thanked her for getting me in to get it renewed so quickly and went home.

When I got done working out I noticed she sent me an email apologizing for it taking so long, even though it couldn't have been more than 10 minutes. I didn't even consider any of our conversation until that point.

So am I right in this being a signal? After looking back I think it was, and maybe the email was a way of trying to get it through to me?

So am I right in this being a signal?

Which one?

The tat convo?

Her asking if your W or GF were in the dept?

Her laughing - A LOT - when you mentioned DD eating the cake and going back to mom's?

Her innocuous follow-up email?

Yeah, hon.

She's interested.

AJ's MOM

I don't think you missed a signal, I think the email was the signal.

Now what are you going to do?

Hugs,

K

had in the department and asked if my wife or girlfriend worked there too

Yes. that is exactly what you think it is. Not a full on hit.. just a shot across the bow.

I forgot to add... I think this speaks very well of her. She's fishing to see if you are available first.

I have been hit on by enough who just don't care.

[This message edited by Maxiom at 12:59 PM, April 2nd (Tuesday)]

That is great!

The email was for you to have another way to contact her.

Coffee or lunch is no pressure if you are interested.

Good luck!

Well... now that you know... ???

Hmmmm...come over here, so I can smack you in the forehead...

Got a V-8 anyone?

Um, yeah. That all adds up to being a Bat Signal.

So. Whatcha gonna do now?

Yeah, the email is a signal.

Def signal!!!! Don't keep us waiting...

Lol, bat signal!

I really have no idea what I want to do about it though. I know I am not interested in a serious relationship but she seems real nice and wouldn't mind hanging out with her (I don't mean sex either). I guess I wouldn't want to give her the wrong impression, or feel I'm trying to take advantage of her. But it would be nice to have someone to take dancing now that I'm learning. Not sure if that makes sense.

Think I just need to take the day and think about it. I've got my kids coming over soon and DD birthday party tonight so my mind is a little preoccupied.

The email is, at a minimum, a way to continue the conversation you two were having.

My guess is that tomorrow you lost your ID badge and need to get a temporary one from her.

oh and Friday you will found it and have t return the temporary one back to her.

(Bad grammar intentional)

Sweetheart....I've seen the pictures from the g2g in Texas.

She doesn't want to be "just friends."

And yes....you're dense.

k9

Um, yeah! Asking about a wife or GF was a huge hunting expedition right before your eyes (ears?). It shows she has integrity and it's exactly how one DDIL approached the subject with one DS when she first came in contact with him. He still didn't quite *get it* and someone brought them together to try to help him *get it*.

And the other DDIL needed a more direct *2x4* approach with that DS. She knew he was available because she worked in the same office. Both were told they had missed signals from other women that were very obvious to those watching.

Are you interested enough to follow up?

I'm with ajsmom, I read about 10 signals in your original post, lol.

So, now what?

I miss signals all the time friend. We switched off that part of our brain when we y'know - married someone.

dlmos.....the question about wife/girlfriend was a BIG Sign. The email follow-up?

Ummm, dude.....if she's someone you might want to get to know a little better....ASK HER OUT! (after you make sure she's single too, of course)

There is nothing wrong with taking things slowly, in fact it usually works out better.

But yeah, you missed some big signals.

Welcome to being single again.

If you don't take her some of that cake,I may have to come do some vehicle extrication training to remove one of your body parts from another!

Lot of women telling you it's a green light. Take it and run! How much bad advice have you gotten on SI?

Get your head out, ask her. What's the worst she can say?

Strength

Eta Damn, what a great first line!

[This message edited by 5454real at 12:35 AM, April 3rd (Wednesday)]

Hey; nothing ventured, nothing gained. If you're not ready to date but enjoyed her company, there's nothing wrong with putting that out there and seeing how she responds.