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Lola2kids (original poster member #32789) posted at 2:59 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013
I got home with the kids at 7. There was a message from the girls grandfather (his parents) from his condo. I got DD to call back and he said they wanted to come over. I try to accommodate them when I can.
Well, HE came with them. I let him in and got busy with something else since the girls were happy to see him.
It's like 2 years ago when we were all in the house. D Day is the 18th. I triggered.
He has new clothes, a tan from his 2 weeks in Mexico with MOW and a new Nikon Digital SLR camera.
Then he had the nerve to ask me why I was upset. I told him its April 12. Do you know what happened 2 years ago? Nope no clue.
He is going now. He has no clue how I feel. I told him how I feel is no longer his concern.
BS: (Me) 48
Kids: twins DD(11)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved an ocean away June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"
devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 3:13 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013
Lola, don't let this go, IMHO. Send him a very business like email stating that you have an arrangement with his parents to see the kids when they can because he is out of the country often. This arrangement is with them and them alone. He is not welcome to tag along on these visits, and he can see the girls on his visitation days. If he continues to violate your boundaries, you will be forced to end your arrangement with his parents.
Also...for you only...so, now you know they are willing to arrange a visit just so asshat can tag along...so, only let them have one of these visits when he's out of the country. If he's here, then they can see the kids on his visitation time only. If they call while he is in town, sorry, we are busy, but XH has them on Saturday!
Close up that loophole in your boundaries for your own protection.
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
Lola2kids (original poster member #32789) posted at 3:19 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013
Yes I can see that he took advantage. Since I make one of the girls talk to them and they don't speak English something always gets lost in translation.
The good things about this visit is that he is removing the last of his stuff from my garage and he made visitation arrangements a week in advance.
When his parents go back to exile at the cottage he will ignore the kids again. It always happens.
BS: (Me) 48
Kids: twins DD(11)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved an ocean away June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 3:26 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013
What an arrogant selfish fuckhead! I am so sorry you triggered! Insensitive asshole! I don't think my stbx would remember any dates either because they are THAT clueless!!
Let's make fun of his outfit again!! Did he wear his fancy jacket? 
Lola2kids (original poster member #32789) posted at 3:56 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013
Lol dmari.
This time he had on a grey plaid bomber jacket with the word Grumpy on the front and a shamrock.
Have to say that the MOW has horrible taste. I know from experience he likes a woman's opinion when he buys clothes.
BS: (Me) 48
Kids: twins DD(11)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved an ocean away June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"
ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 4:15 AM on Saturday, April 13th, 2013
Woah, woah, woah. I try to get along with my in-laws, but if any of them pulled this kind of trick on me? Oh hell no.
Or maybe they didn't know that him be invited would not be okay? Maybe he told them some lies, just to make you look uneasy and upset and look like the bad guy?
Either way, FTG. Invading your home like that is beyond wrong. That put you in a bad spot and you would probably normally tell him to get the hell away from you, but having his parents there made you want to act civil.. Ugh, violating in so many ways.
On a lighter note, at least you have some more storage space in your garage! And his wardrobe has been giving me the chuckles lately, so feel free to post descriptions anytime 
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