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torn2bits (original poster member #28376) posted at 5:28 AM on Sunday, April 14th, 2013
I am more traditional. Both me and WH come from very traditional families. His mom and dad are now gone, but they were the most fabulous people you ever met. They had 5 children and were married for 45 years. Met at a serviceman dance.
I told my WH that he dishonored me. I still hold my values true to this. The hurt is along these lines because, if my WH was a regular serial cheater it would be different. He has not left me for the OW, he has professed for all to see that he doesn't want a divorce and recently when I was in a car accident, he was the one who took care of me, drove me around, called to see how I was doing, told other of my illness and asked if I was ok, called to see how I was doing.
Its pure torture.
Me: 45/WH (SA): 49
M: 26 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce halted
bbee ( member #17840) posted at 6:35 PM on Sunday, April 14th, 2013
(((torn)))
I'm sorry you're hurting.
This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 11:49 PM on Sunday, April 14th, 2013
Sometimes the infidelity permently breaks something in the BS that can't be found again. Don't feel bad you aren't feeling what he or others want you to feel. You are being true to yourself.
He has not left me for the OW, he has professed for all to see that he doesn't want a divorce and recently when I was in a car accident, he was the one who took care of me, drove me around, called to see how I was doing, told other of my illness and asked if I was ok, called to see how I was doing
All this great and wonderful but that didn't stop him from crossing line, he knew what he was risking, and you don't have to accept his decision no matter how remorseful he is after the fact. The choice is yours and only you know what you can live with in the future.
Hugs
Gma
[This message edited by gma56 at 5:50 PM, April 14th (Sunday)]
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
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