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I see a lot of advice about WS having to examine what made them do what they do. For now our mc is serving as his ic. I just want to make sure that they are looking at what they need to look at. I am meeting alone with mc too and would like to hear the game plan. I know mc ideally should not be ic but my wh really trusts and likes him so for now I think it should be fine. If I see it as a problem we can change that too.

It works for us - our MC are a couple. I see the wife for my IC and he sees the husband for his IC.

I know that this time around (he has had previous ICs) that his IC really knows the background. He isn't only giving the sanitised version. Also my IC calls me on stuff where she knows he has made changes from MC and helps me keep perspective.

In MC neither IC brings up stuff from IC. We have to do that. We only ever meet with our own IC or with them as a couple for MC. We both trust and like them and I think that is the biggest thing.

Our MC is also our IC. We like her, but have talked about getting other people for IC.

Right now it seems that it would benefit us to stick with one C. I feel that this gives the C the ability to see how we operate individually and then see how that changes (or if it changes) when we are together.

Regardless...C is critical for us. It is not cheap or fun but it is a necessary step for us.

I would like a more clear game plan from our C...but think this is not something that can be planned like I do my work plan at work. Of course, if it were, we could probably buy a book and do this ourselves.

God be with us all.