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Mrs. Robinson (OW) has apparently told people that she thinks I'm a stalker and wants to file a restraining order against me. This info was volunteered to me by her STBXH (separated before A)

I cannot fathom what makes her think I am stalking her! I have been NC with her since Dday! NC with WXBF for almost a month! I do not drive by her house, workplace, nada. I asked two people about her in the first two weeks after Dday because I hardly knew her and WXBF was a zombie. Two people. One was her STBXH when I informed him of the A and he said I should warn my ex away from her. The other was a friend I found out knew her a bit. Thats not stalking, thats normal and was WEEKS ago. I did look up her address for DDs mom who was afraid WXBF would take DD from school. That is not stalking. And I'm betting she doesn't know any of that except that I spoke with her ex.

How can WXBF not see that she is nutty?! That is not grounds for a restraining order! Crazy!

Sounds like she just wants to feel important.

I bet it's true that a lot of affairs fall apart once the BS starts ignoring them and stops giving them a common enemy. It's like the glue that holds them together. And now she's gonna make up shit to keep up the excitement..

Given what you've said, sounds like she is just trying to stir up trouble.. She WANTS to make you feel crazy, so don't let her get to you.

And the more quiet I am the crazier she will get, I'm sure. But still, I don't know if he knows she wants to file a restraining order but if he does, why would he agree with her?? Its completely unsubstantiated.

And unnecessary, theres enough drama, but I guess my filing for custody of our son and pissing off my ex is insufficient since it doesn't actually involve her...

Must be some other BSO stalking her. I'd suggest that next time someone says something.

"Nah, they're not worth my time. Maybe some other BSO is stalking her...you can only imagine what a woman like that has done. That's why I steer clear."

Crazy b...ch my n is with got a restraining order on me based on lies.police told me anyone can get a restraining order sad think is its their word against yours.

thats not fair... restraining orders shouldn't be allowed to be used to bully innocent people.

There is a community service event we are both planning to attend in July. I'm concerned she will file close to that date and get a temporary order... so even if its denied later in court she can keep me from the event... I'm not even doing anything!

File a harrassment suit against her to prevent this crazy. My head shakes so often here, I'm afraid it's gonna pop off.

She's a drama queen.

She probably needs to convince people that you are crazy and that is why she isn't a bad person for sleeping with your EX.

I believe restraining orders where I live, there actually has to be a threat of physical danger.

Does she need to offer some proof to get a RO? And if you don't, maybe you should get one yourself, as she's clearly a little bit nutty.

I think in my state, you need some sort of tangible proof in order to get one.

My XH was threatening me w/one. I had my L contact his L regarding that, as all his accusations could easily be disproven.

From what I've seen she has a thing for court drama. She initially got close to XWBF by trying to help him with getting his restitution dealt with (he stabbed a gut in a fight almost ten years ago. His only trouble with the law ever.) But she failed, it was all pointless, she had no idea what she was talking about.

I'm sure she was behind XWBF filing for joint custody of DD.

Now potentially this restraining order thing...

And her STBXH told me she lies a lot, not "I was out with the girls" lies but "He beat me and my child, officer" lies. His words not mine. I didn't push for details.

And XWBF doesn't see she's disturbed??

I'm so disappointed in him...

If you can get some proof that she filed bogus OOP against her X, that may help you in getting her RO against you dismissed? Just a thought.

He's far too busy eating those yummy ego kibbles. FTG, he is now her problem. Focus on you & DD.