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Is it normal for people to get strippers in at work functions?

Is it only me that still sees strippers as sleazy and well a bit gross?

Is putting pics of your genitals on a sleazy dating website normal or acceptable?

Am I that out of touch?

No its not normal, my h posted his junk on one of those sites, i recognized his hands, i think it's creepy. He's kind of a dumb ass, he accidently leaves things open.

Not normal. I work for an established company in a large city and have friends who work in small and large companies -- none of us has ever even heard of strippers in the workplace.

I'm pretty sure any reputable company would not risk offending even one male or female employee and having to deal with a sex-related lawsuit. Those cost a lot of money to even consult with a lawyer.

Is it acceptable? I'm a guy and I'm a manager. I would not ever accept strippers in the workplace.

If employees go to a strip club after work, that's their business, I won't judge. In the workplace -- never.

As a BS it might sound like I'm sitting on a high horse as I type this, but I feel that strippers are passable at a bachelor party only and I personally skipped that part for years because my wife said it made her uncomfortable. Yes, she's now a WW -- ironic. But that doesn't answer your question. In my experience strippers in the workplace happens only in bad movies.

Some people are okay with strippers.

I am not one of those people.

I my fiancé was at any function and there was a stripper there, that would be an absolute deal breaker for me.

Posting pics of genitals on the Internet is unacceptable for anyone in a relationship. Also, it is disgusting.

I feel I may be a bit of a hypocrite in this realm. Porn is not an issue for me. Strippers are. Big time. 100% unacceptable, nor do I think it is normal, and most especially not in the workplace.

Is it normal for people to get strippers in at work functions?

No.

If your M is going to work, you must trust yourself and your values. Set personal boundaries. Don't let the morals, or immorality, of others decide your future happiness.

Some people think strippers are just part of men's fun. I thought so too until one pursued my husband and got money and gifts in exchange for you know what.

I have done a lot of web surfing and discovered a web site called hustle hut where the strippers discuss how to maximize their cash intake. Not nice.

My WH said he was just going for fun but it turned into a lot more. They are predators of stupid men

Having them in for any company function would be an absolute no no in any company with a human resources department

[This message edited by PowerInNow at 10:43 PM, May 21st (Tuesday)]

Do NOT drink the kool-aid, SH.

Strippers at a work function? Really??? NO. Actually, NOT just no, but hell fucking no.

Genital pictures on a dating sites??? I suppose if it's a 'sleazy' site, then yes....that would be normal. Acceptable? Not to me.

If you are out of touch....then I guess that *I* am too. It all sounds pretty *wrong* to me....

These guys are sent to projects and its a testosterone environment. At the camps they have gyms, wet bars, restarant style meals, etc... they have big egos.

My darling had had face, genitals and occupation, income etc..

I just tell him it reminds me of a old man in a raincoat at a park exposing himself.

I said to him recently, do you think exposing yourself is ok? He said oh they are on those websites by choice, they know what its about.

Then I asked him how he would feel if I had done the same thing and he went quiet and had to think about that.

Sometimes I think I am so lucky to have such a special man for my life partner. He is obviously so proud of himself.

For better and worse eh..

Not normal. Not acceptable.

Strippers are prostitutes. They sell sex. (They are not the mythical "virgins *Dancing* their way through collage."for the most part.)

Soooo... Are prostitutes acceptable to you?

Prostitution is prohibited from most work places, so nope. Not ok there. (unless you happen to work in a business with shady ownership. Still not ok, but might happen anyway...

WARNING: I am a prude.

I don't like the notion of strippers.

I have been attacked on here for saying this but I have a right to express my feelings.

Stripping to me is provocative actions designed to get a sexual response. (Note I haven't indicated gender. The same is true for both men and women. It is also important to note that my condemnation does not apply to activities which may be part of the "fun" side of sexual activities between committed partners.)

Frequenting "strip joints" to me is a type of cheating. It is looking for sexual titillation from someone other than one's partner.

For an employer to provide this in the workplace or at a workplace event is unacceptable.

Laura

If you're uncomfortable, then it's unacceptable in your marriage. You don't have to make yourself OK with it when you're not. I think a lot of people see it as a line being crossed. It's not a 2D person (though a lot of us aren't big on porn either, another boundary that's OK to have!), it's a real-life person being naked in front of your spouse. It's just somehow assumed/advertised that money exchange = boundary that makes it acceptable since it's "business" rather than "genuine attraction" for the strippers. It still isn't acceptable for a lot of people. Money or not, still your spouse is getting off to another woman who is dancing naked on his lap, getting her glitter on him (if she wears it), smelling her perfume. You're not out of touch and you don't have to apologize for having a boundary against that sort of thing.

[This message edited by silverhopes at 2:46 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday)]

Laura, I don't you are a prude.

I think what you do for , each other is private between you.

What got me was when I went to these sites he had joined, there were so many men and women obviously selling themselves. There were people listed as from the little town I was living in. I didn't like the idea of his face being on there. What if I walked down the road with him when he was home on RNR, when his face had been out there as well as what I see as my procession. His body. That is private and ours. Not half the internets. I didn't marry a porn actor.

Yes strippers sell sex. Sleazy slappers for sure.

[This message edited by scissorhands at 2:47 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday)]

Just one word: GROSS.

Okay maybe a few more.

Any idea on how many STDs are passed around by these whores of Babylon?

[This message edited by la433 at 2:54 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday)]

to be honest, no one is worth all the fall out from these people.

But I have chosen to stay at this point.

STDs, no matter what it is a statistics game. The more you screw around, the greater the chances of STDs.

It just wrecks your whole outlook on life. BUT I chose to not let it make me bitter.

So I am giving him the rope. Will be interesting to see what happens.

I do have a couple clients that do this a couple times a year. No its not normal but it does happen.

I always felt a little weird about it. Now I see it as unacceptable. I have not gone in quite a while and will not go again unless my job absolutely depends on it.

it reminds me of a old man in a raincoat at a park exposing himself.

and the location would be a world wide virtual park. These sites are like amusement parks for deviance, IMO.

Even if there are a bunch of men in a camp setting working all day long far from home, it's not a part of the "work". I suppose that environment might be a bit like the Wild West and some of the "campers can " get caught up in the testosterone induced group think. It might seem" normal" in that particular fish bowl.

Does he think it's normal?

Is it normal for people to get strippers in at work functions?

No, it is not normal, and in fact to me seems way outa line and projects an extremely unprofessional, seemingly condoned attitude.

Is it only me that still sees strippers as sleazy and well a bit gross?

I do as well.

Is putting pics of your genitals on a sleazy dating website normal or acceptable?

Totally NOT acceptable anywhere, anytime IMO.

Am I that out of touch?

Not to me, but I have to admit what I have seen/experienced since attempting a "new life" after nearly 25 faithful years on my part to the same women, is kinda shocking and makes me very uncomfortable. I can not believe how women and men talk to each other, the vulgarity, constant sexual innuendo, and outright disgusting behavior.

Jeez, anyone out there just go on nice first dates anymore, try to respectfully simply enjoy a new persons company, and not try to be set up on as I have with what are referred to as "DTF's"; that meaning "Down To Fuck" hookups, as if ordering a Pizza. If that makes me out of touch, I guess I'm in for a loooooong dry spell.