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GreenMom (original poster member #36385) posted at 4:21 PM on Wednesday, May 22nd, 2013
I got a nasty email a little over a week ago from STBXH basically saying that if I didn't change two non-parenting related decisions I'd made, he would take my son from me. That I am making bad parenting decisions.
The things he's talking about?
My mother has lived with me for 3 yrs... it's time for her to get her own place. SHe's going to be moving literally next door so it's not like DS won't see his grandma anymore.
I have a foster child. The state is looking at reunification and I am working with them rather than fighting it.
Yup. Those are my bad choices. I can see why that makes me a bad mom. It's not like I cheated, broke up the family, moved out, and moved my OW and her kids in before a divorce is even final.
I truly have given up trying to even understand any of this BS. I feel like I am continually punished for just trying to do the right thing. My response to his email? "Have your attorney contact my attorney". Asshole.
But now I've spent the last week really shaken up and feeling a setback in my new beginning.
On the other hand, I realized I'd still been being the compromiser and trying not to rock the boat. That is OVER. Threaten to take my son? Yeah. Nope.
DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 4:35 PM on Wednesday, May 22nd, 2013
Do not respond to e-mails such as these from your STBXH. That is what he wants. Do not give him the satisfaction of even acknowleding such BS. No way is this showing you as a bad parent. He is just trying to get under your skin and you are letting him. Think to yourself "bring it on stupid asswipe", but don't respond. He is not worth the time to type the words. NC=No new hurts. If you don't acknowledge them, eventually he will get tired of sending them. BTDT. (((HUGS)))
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
tabitha95 ( member #22033) posted at 5:27 PM on Wednesday, May 22nd, 2013
He's hypercritical of you for a myriad of reasons, all of which AREN'T about you, but instead, about him.
I wouldn't engage in a conversation with him about either.
He can't control what your mother does, and he can't control what the state decides.
BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 6:13 PM on Wednesday, May 22nd, 2013
What a delusional loser. I agree with the other posters ... no need to respond if he should try to bait you again. He knew threatening to take your son would upset you. FTG.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 12:59 AM on Thursday, May 23rd, 2013
Uh...*shaking head*...
FTG
He's got nothing. So give him nothing but crickets in the future.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
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