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April 24 2012 will be a date that I'll always remember as long as I live! That's the day that I found out my model husband of 22 years wasn't so model afterall!!!

He picked up our son at 9:00 p.m. at batting practice on his way home from work. Our son rode in a carpool with a team mom. When he got home about ten- I noticed that he was even more distant than usual and sat at the computer texting someone. I had a funny feeling and went to bed. Early in the morning I woke up from a deep sleep and immediately checked my sleeping husband's phone. The texts that I saw had my stomach in my throat!!

Him: Where are you?

Team mom: Out in the parking lot!

Him: Be right there!

Three hours later...

Team mom: It's been such a long time!

Him: That felt amazing! You are so f---ing hot!!

Well to make a long story short- he said it was only a kiss- and he kissed her b/c she was so attentive and she was having m problems! And the reason he said that she was hot was to make her feel better about herself since she's so homely which she most definately is. Of course - I believed nothing!! And the next day I barraged her with texts- telling her that I was going to inform her husband what she does during their son's bb practice. But I heard the usual- my husband will beat me and leave me! I decided that it wasn't worth my time and I left it with- if you ever have any contact with my husband ever again then I'll tell your husband in a heartbeat!!! Personally- I thought my husband had completely lost his mind- mid life crisis or both!!! This woman was everything that had always repulsed him!!! All the other team parents couldn't stand her and thought she was completely crazy! I had a run in with her about seven years ago when I was room mother for our son's second grade class. She attended a school field trip and her sociopathic son broke her Sony walkman and she proceeded to beat him in a fit of rage in front of the entire second grade! She was banned from attending school functions after that!! Classy lady- huh?

After knowing that my husband was attracted to pondscum I began checking up on him and found another just as low class. Apparently my husband is all about inappropriate attention and I wasn't giving him any- poor baby! Upon disclosure- my husband told me that it was the team mom who threw herself at him and she kissed him! I don't know what to believe anymore!! Was it a quickie out in the parking lot? I really could care less actually! My husband told me that the team mom has tried to chat him up on facebook ( before he deleted her) and sent him a text.

I know that I shouldn't be concerned with these skumsuckers but I so want to get even with her!! Who does she think she is going after my husband!! And she got off Scott free and she probably got a good laugh about it!!!!

Our son's play on two different teams now and I haven't seen her in over a year. But I know that I'll be seeing her over the summer for club ball games. This is my plan. I'm going to ask to speak with her alone and then I'm going to tell her that I'm considering divorcing my husband and I don't need to prove infidelity. However- I have a trust fund to protect and verizon saves text messages for 18 months. And that my husband has already told me the truth- now it's your turn. If I don't believe you- I'll just have my lawyer suponea you! By the way- did my husband use a condom? If you contact my husband about this conversation- he'll tell me b/c he's so afraid of me right now. And then I'll have to tell your husband. But then again- remember what I told you over a year ago- about no contact with my husband? You'll never know when it's coming!!

I know it sounds a little over the top but I want to know exactly what happenend and I want her to feel some anxiety!! I also heard from a reliable source that she caused the breakup of a co-workers m and then she laughed about it-like it was the funniest thing in the world!! After her- I'm going to work on my husband! I think that he's going to get an anonymous text telling him that a crazy team mom is spreading rumors about him within the baseball circle!!!

Vengeance is mine said the lord! But he has nothing gonna bs!!!!!!

I meant to say: But he has nothing on a bs!

Revenge might sound great in the short term, maybe it even feels great immediately after,but in the long term is it really worth it?

Why abandon the high road to get down in the mud with the pigs.

Granted feeling some way and acting on those feelings are two different things so if this was just a rant forgive me.

But I've read a few people who say they've done things with revengeful feelings in mind only to regret them later.

Take a deep look at yourself and ask if that is the person you want to be.

Hi mj052.

I'm sorry if I sound confused, forgive me.

I totally understand revenge - totally. I immediately after D day went onto that site for cheating for married people. I got so many hits it scared the living sh#t out of me, really. So I just ignored it. If I am going to cheat, I guess random annonymous sex with men is not for me - even if I want revenge.

So, it's been almost a year and still no revenge. But you want revenge on the OW...so I find that even more interesting. She sounds a little dangerous so maybe you might want to not go for the revenge. I'm not even sure if you believe they had sex. So not sure if you want revenge if you believe it was just texting and a kiss. It's up to you to believe what you can live with.

In my opinion, revenge is best served upon the one who hurt you the most - and that is not the OW. But, then I haven't done any revenge yet so I guess I'm no one to talk. Just understand, anything you do can completely blow up in your face. Be prepared and take responsibility for your decision ahead of time.

Good luck and I'm so sorry for all of our situations.

I probably will not be very popular with my reply, but I see nothing wrong with letting OW know what I will/would do if she tries it again. I don't look at it as revenge as much as just letting her know there will be consequences if she breaks NC. JMO. (((HUGS)))

Here's my question: What are you doing about your M?

Your H is the one who hurt you. Don't get me wrong I totally understand the burning rage against AP, but he's the one who made vows to you.

It also sounds like she's not the only OW. Your problems are bigger than her.

Forget about revenge.

Just tell the oBS because it is the moral and right thing to do.

I think about revenge every day, but trying to keep the thoughts at bay because they are not very nice thoughts. OW has hurt the way I am hurting but I guess she forgot how it felt when her husband cheated on her.