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WW doesnt know that I have filed. Doing the 180 and it is driving her insane. That is not my intention I'm detaching.

She can tell that I'm detaching so she said "get over it you big pussy".

Ugh U can't wait to get out of this marriage.

Sounds like she just reinforced that you are making the right decision to D.

Sorry...what a b!@#h

Wow.

Oh, you're getting over it alright. Thank God!

I'm so sorry, though...still hurts to be called names and to have to live with someone so cruel and heartless.

Holy Cow... I'm so sorry. Believe her. Believe this is the real her.

Wow it's like God gave you a sign that yup I made the right choice.

I would be very careful. I think she will be vindictive as hell when she realizes what she is losing.

Might be smart to get a VAR if you don't already have one, and keep it on you. Women like her love to try to switch it up and claim you are an abuser.

Protect yourself Protect your son. Just keep repeating it over and over.

((((soulhurt)))) Stay the course no matter how hard she tries to bait you (and make no mistake - that's exactly what she's doing - she's trying to get a reaction from you one way or the other).

Strength.

Like nik said - she'll try to pull all those strings to see which ones you respond to. Play it cool and vent here if you have to. This person isn't worth getting angry over.

It made me laugh and think "wow". Man she lost all respect for me. I don't know what happened to my wife of 15 years. This is not her.

Yep you changed your response and that lack of control is driving her crazy. keep in keeping on

Get over the 10 months of in your face betrayal, you deserved it because you didn't put any thought to gifts and red roses are boring there are 100s of prettier arrangements. Get over it you big pussy.

Man I'm so done witb my loving WW.

No. This is who she is. People change. This is the woman she is now. Don't fool yourself.

Get a few vars. Now. Before she realizes you filed.

Fuck.that.bitch.

So sorry Soulhurt. Think of a D as a stepping stone to a brighter future without the fear and pain she brought into your life.

She is frustrated by the lack of control. She is angry trying to call you out. Verbally abusive to boot. She showed you who she is. Believe her.

She will try to suck you back in. Stay the course. Don't tell her that you have filed. Let her get served. Go dark when she gets served. Refer her to your attorney.

Have you kept the thumb drive and any evidence you have ? While probably not admissable or even impacting the outcome it can be a pretty powerful bargaining chip knowing that you have it. Play for keeps.

Be strong. This too shall pass.

It made me laugh and think "wow". Man she lost all respect for me. I don't know what happened to my wife of 15 years. This is not her.

That last line reminds me of something my WH said. He told me that during his A he was "two different people." My reply was, "No you weren't. You were YOU being YOU the WHOLE time." She's being her, Soulhurt.

Protect yourself please, it sounds like she's not afraid to hit low and hard. You're doing great in not responding to the bait, stay strong in that respect because she'll up the ante to get a reaction out of you. A VAR is an excellent idea. Good luck to you.

Did you change to full custody?

Right here what prissy4life said:

Sorry...what a b!@#h

Maybe respond with something like this: What the fuck did you THINK I was doing?

Man, what a bitch.

The best answer is silence.

Trustedg is right, silence is your greatest weapon right now & the fact she's lashing out is proof it's working. Keep your thoughts focused on the day you get to hand her divorce papers & say "Great news! I'm finally over it."

((((Strength to you)))))

I am so sorry. It really does hold up the flashing neon sign that dumping her spoiled, selfish, toxic, and abusive ass is definitely in you and your son's best interest. You son deserves better than to be living with that kind of toxic parent 24/7. I firmly believe it's far better to be from a broken home than to grow up in one. And your WW keeps breaking it over and over and over.

I do hope that you are preparing yourself for the waterworks and empty promises that your WW is going to pull once she gets slammed with those divorce papers and her parents tear her a new one for being a failure of a wife/mother. Just remember that all of that will be fake. She will only be trying to suck you back in so that she can further abuse you with stuff she considers "no big deal" while demanding that you "get over it" once her parents are no longer on her ass or when she convinces everyone that her being a lying cheater is your fault because the roses you bought her didn't impress her enough. Make a list of all of the crap you will be getting away from so that you can refer back to it when you feel your resolve on leaving her waver. Let's face it. Your WW knows how to work you so that you will be willing to put up with however badly she wants to treat you. She knows that all she has to do is offer you a little sex here and there while lying really well and you fall for it.

Don't fall for it anymore. You deserve better than to be married to a wife who blows up an innocent child's family in order to "run" with random strangers so long as they stroke her ego just right. Your son deserves to know that real women don't throw their children and spouses under the bus in order to show off and be worshiped for losing weight. You son also deserves to know that it isn't normal or acceptable for someone to lie and cheat while further abusing everyone in their life as they claim "it's no big deal." Show your son that it is a big deal by following through on that divorce. Remember, actions speak louder than words. Your WW ignores all of your words and calls you names for it. Now it's time to let your actions in actually divorcing her speak for you.

Man she lost all respect for me.

Nope, she's lost all respect for herself!