My ex was NPD. While he wasn't the worst, most of the men I meet will be an instant improvement, just by definition
^^^ Tru Dat! Most of the guys I've dated HAVE been a huge improvement from my NPD XWSO. For the most part, we've all parted ways for basic incompatibility issues. Nothing major, and no hard feeling on either part. Actually, not even an arguement, oddly enough. If I had been desperate (or just antsy) for a "relationship" a lot of them would have been viable candidates.
I'm not desperate. I'm not going to settle for less that a person that fits my life pretty darned well, and I need to fit his life too. There are some things I will compromise on, but the big issues, I refuse to compromise.
Let things happen at their own pace. Don't try to force yourself or anyone else (potention SO's) into a cookie cutter mold of the perfect partner. Don't rush, don't compare yourself to anyone else and their sitch. Just do what's right for you.
I do still have a matrimonial allergy, but I think I'm past the "afraid of a committment" phase. I trust my gut to tell me when things are right, and I think it's kept me on the right path . It's told me "no" too many times, I've listened to it, and I'm grateful.
Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr
