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Strippers in the workplace are not normal or acceptable IMO.

Slight t/j I think but:

Strippers are prostitutes. They sell sex. (They are not the mythical "virgins *Dancing* their way through collage."for the most part.)

No, they are not. Many may engage in prostitution but the two are not the same. Additionally, at least one of those myths was a BW here. I do not remember the user as it has been awhile but when we say infidelity strikes everyone, it literally strikes everyone. Be careful of general condemnations because they *will* hit someone you don't want them to.

Strippers in the workplace?? No way.

I too find them sleazy- they make me feel uncomfortable. I don't think they're the same as prostitutes though!

Posting pics online?? No effing way!!

Shockleader, I have no idea about modern dating. Didn't do that much dating before anyway.

Sounds silly but the moment I met my husband I knew I could have him for my own. Instantly.

I must be the only women who has never watched porn either. Am I a prude, no I am not. I like sex and enjoy it with my husband.

I know he has watched porn and obviously likes porn sites but I considered watching it with him but decided that I didn't want or need to bring that issue into our marriage.

Perhaps strippers don't sell sexual intercourse but they sure sell sex. And if you are willing to strip naked for a dollar then its not a big jump to assume that you will sell your body for a dollar. Its like emotional infidelity compared to physical infidelity. At the end of the day its all relationship destroying stuff.

WH

The company sends groups of guys out to 'build big things' (likening them to boys with oversized lego) and it used to be that they only came home Easter and Xmas. I hate to think how many families that way of living destroyed. He has been with them 3 years in Feb. He was away from home for 4wks to 3 months at a time. The financial rewards are insane and it is dangerous work.

I know of only one other man who took his wife along and lived off site (sadly he was killed in a work accident last year so I bet she I glad she had that time with him).

I sometimes think because I cant say that he carried on a physical affair with X amount of women that it is seen as a lesser infidelity but it is just as personally devastating.

I guess I always deep down had the thought that he was the sort that if some pretty girl flattered him, he would be vunerable but he never showed any inclination towards other women. Came right out of the blue as so many say.

As I say I wish I had chosen at the time to walk away but our relationship as companions had value and I have chosen to give him a second chance. (Three strikes and you are out).

[This message edited by scissorhands at 8:03 PM, May 22nd (Wednesday)]

I'm sorry if I am offending a stripper whose spouse what's cheated on them, but strippers are prostitutes.

A prostitute is somebody who solicits and accepts payment for sex acts. I consider grinding on someone's lap naked (or, I'm so sorry, wearing nothing but a f-ing thong) a sex act.

My fiancé and I have an understanding that he is certainly allowe to do as he pleases and go wherever he wants to go- but if involves being in a place where a woman is using her body sexually to get money, and he doesn't get the heck out of there immediately, I will leave him and never speak to him ever again.

I didn't read replies but no, strippers at work are never acceptable unless you work at a strip club.

I didn't read replies but no, strippers at work are never acceptable unless you work at a strip club.

Literally just LOL'ed

I posted on a previous thread that I was a stripper for years. At this point, in no way would I be ok with a spouse or bf etc visiting a strip club. Has nothing to do with the level of contact that may or may not go on. I won't t/j this with my whole story but strip clubs even at their cleanest are not a place for anyone in a committed relationship and imo nowhere for a man who respects women. I couldn't be ok with a man coming home to me knowing that he'd just been at a club and perused the selection and picked out his favorite girl for a dance like she's a platter of wings off the menu at a restaurant.

As far as in a workplace? Every night at the club men would ask me to do "private parties" for them somewhere or other. I always said no and got a very creepy feeling. First of all I did not think it would be physically safe, and I also felt they were asking me for more than dancing. I mean if they just want dances why not come to the club where we had security and management etc. Why ask me to meet them somewhere else. I just find it hard to believe that people are arranging these little parties with strippers for the same thing they would get at the club. It didn't make sense to me then and it doesn't now. JMO.

Slight t/j I think but:

Strippers are prostitutes. They sell sex. (They are not the mythical "virgins *Dancing* their way through collage."for the most part.)

No, they are not. Many may engage in prostitution but the two are not the same.

IMHO, strippers are prostitutes. They accept payment from men to expose their bodies and they grind themselves on men during lap dances for money. Some may go as far as actual intercourse, while others can provide sexual release and titillation to the men without intercourse. They are in the business to sell sex whether it is mentally and/or physically for money.

It is highly inappropriate and unprofessional to have strippers at a company function. They are boozing these guy up and entertaining them with strippers???? Talk about a perfect storm. Sick, sick, sick.....I hope they get slapped with some hefty lawsuits.

But if they go so far as intercourse-they are a prostitute- if it's stripping, ini my opinion it isn't prostitution... Just my opinion- I'm not a fan of either!!

I always feel like the strippers will secretly hate the men and think they're pervs.

I always feel like the strippers will secretly hate the men and think they're pervs.

yup.

Strippers in the workplace would be illegal in Canada/Ontario and result in a case of Sexual Harassment, multiple people being fired etc.

I would like to specifically answer the question- I have strippers come into my work all the time. As a nurse at a public health clinic, we see all sorts of patients, a number of them strippers. A number of them corner prostitutes.

Those women come in for three main things: they want adderall or some other controlled substance, they want us to fill out paperwork for the housing authority not to shut off their electricity (because they haven't been paying their bills), or for STI checks.

I would like to add, no, insist, that if anyone's spouse has been to a strip club reciently, please go get checked yourself. Even if you trust your spouse or don't think they did anything, it NEVER hurts to check. And the clap is going around...just saying.

Strippers in the work place? What are you kidding?

I could see the director of HR of any company head exploding should that occur.

posting your nasties on the internet? No not normal, not acceptable, a lot of people do it, but it's not really a normal thing to do.