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Cerise, thanks for the encouraging post - and I hear ya loud and clear. I'm gonna change my attitude, and as a couple of the women here have said - keep it light and friendly.

What I still don't know/understand however, is how do I keep from being relegated to the "friendship zone" if I take this approach?

t2g:

I LOVE bookstores but rarely have time to go hang out in them!

Being single dad I find I have no time for much loitering and scamming as I am too damned busy living a basic single life.

I'm a single mom of two and I go to bookstores all the time! My boys love them too and we go often, but when they're with their dad I go alone.

As far as the dreaded friendship zone, my advice is that there is no way to tell initially and try not to feel so much pressure. If there is chemistry there it will happen!

RG

Abandoned...the friendship zone is a great place to be. I met my current beau in the friendship zone and if we had both not been willing to go there first, we wouldn't be dating now.

How about meeting (online or in person) a lot of different women? I found that by talking to men (almost exclusively online, because I work from home) I have learned a lot about the opposite sex and a lot about myself also. It has also helped me to figure out what I want and what I don't want from a relationship. Also, it is amazing what people will reveal about themselves when they are IMing. It makes the culling process so much easier

For every pot, there is a lid.

Grocery stores and stores like Canadian Tire are great. It is a very safe environment to start getting used to approaching members of the opposite sex.