It appears to me that someone on this site recognized who I am and more importantly who my wife is. How I came to this belief is that in one of my threads this person mentioned my wife by name!
I will be honest; it shook me to my core because anonymity is one of the bedrock principles of a site like this and to lose it puts before a person a troubling but familiar questions. Do I stay or do I go? Do I accept and reconcile the fact that I am no longer unknown or do I reject and divorce myself from a site that I have grown to love and trust?
It was suggested that maybe this was simply a strange coincidence or an odd typo or something along those lines. Before I concluded that the smart thing for me to do was to bail that I would ask, in a follow up question on the same thread, as to how it was that they came to using my wife’s name? I received no response.
This did not help to relieve my anxiety. I waited a few days and then I reluctantly sent my fellow betrayed a P.M. explaining that I wasn’t mad but was uncomfortable and needed to know whether it was that they recognized me or was this just an odd happenstance. Again, no response.
This lack of replies has left me in a very familiar quandary. Once again, I feel silenced for the wrongdoing of another. There is deep loneliness in a situation like this. A type of abandonment that feels like betrayal. Though that probably is unfair or an overreaction for this situation could be just an weird mistake.
A few here, have thoughtfully reached out to me, to see if I was okay and that really warms the heart. And they have kindly listened with intent to my fears and concerns. It affirms that there is support here and that I would be wise to stay and find my way through this uncomfortable situation.
But in truth, I want to shrink back into the shadows.
Asterisk
