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What’s a few weeks between friends?

Antiversary is still about a month away, but even last year I didn’t even note it until someone mentioned it to me, so I think I’m past the weight of the day. Even our old marriage anniversary passed this year and I didn’t notice it until a couple days later. I think I can safely say I’m on solid ground.
I still think of the life she obliterated and daily feel deep anger toward her. Being with my children reminds of it, I hate that she destabilized their lives. Traumatized them. Will be an emotional anchor to them for as long as she lives. I give myself permission to feel that anger, it is more than deserved.
My relationships with my children continue to flourish. My oldest son went from having a distant, contentious stance toward me to calling me his best friend. He told me he was proud of me for rebuilding myself and showing back up for them. Hard for me to imagine a greater honor.
I am in love with a wonderful woman. We fit together very well. She is a BW herself. We both have a lot of patience for each others soft spots and we both own our shit. I can see my life with her and it looks beautiful.
I’m a different person from pre D-day, no question. I’m tougher. I let myself feel anger, but I also pursue feeling joy. I reject a lukewarm life. This tested me to my utter limits, but I survived. As they say, never let a good crisis go to waste.

For those still in the excruciating pain, it gets better. Put words to your pain, let it flow out in tears and screams and any constructive means you can find. You can heal, fight for it.