Newlywed18 (original poster new member #75935) posted at 11:53 PM on Sunday, May 24th, 2026
I last posted in 2020 after my husband was found soliciting prostitutes by my then minor son. We went to marriage counseling for 4 years and he was supposedly staying faithful. I started working with a therapist last year that identified narcissistic abuse. For years I had been trying to explain to him how he was hurting me with emotional abuse and sexual coercion and I came to realize he was not going to change. My health had really suffered from the constant stress.
We reached the point of separation and he asked if we could try again. I told him I needed a week break before I could consider it and he texted me how he was so thankful for the chance and was terrified of how close he came to losing me. He left and immediately turned off his location and activated Tinder (according to phone records) while still sending me texts with hearts. We stayed separated and in the weeks to follow I found evidence of solicitation on our phone records. I now believe he never stopped the solicitation and was living a double life the entire time.
I feel like I have been gutted and get through my work but that's all I have. To make matters harder, he is fighting me aggressively with the divorce. Even though we are where we are because of him. There are large amounts of money that have gone through our accounts and I have my attorney investigating. We don't have anything to show for all the money that is missing.
This is a living hell. I would love to hear if anyone has been here and if you have any advice.
