SurvivingInfidelity.com^®

Annben- skim milk in coffee is terrible. Soymilk is not bad, though. But I agree heavy cream is yummiest.

Does anyone else just get so frustrated sticking to a diet that they have like... a meltdown? I swear I am so on edge- it's like quitting smoking except WORSE.

So I just got around to changing the batteries in my scale....I haven't weighed myself in almost 2 weeks and I'm terrified to get on the scale in the morning. I'm actually thinking of waiting until Monday to weigh in because I've had a lot of sodium (read Chinese food)...as in I had it Saturday, Sunday and Tuesday. Bad bad bad, especially because I retain water like a big dog. But that was then and I'm back on track starting today.

I just got back from the gym ~ I did 1.2 miles on the elliptical at level 6 of the fat burner workout ~ can I tell you how numb my upper legs are??? I wanted to finish up with 15 minutes on the treadclimber but someone was on it, so I did some weight machines that focused on my upper body. Hopefully I'll be able to walk tomorrow!!!

[This message edited by needing_clarity at 7:12 PM, March 5th (Wednesday)]

For motivation....

You have to change your inner dialogue. As someone that was totally beaten down by this affair and let emotional eating put on 50 lbs on my body, I know all about that demon. That made my self esteem worse.

I needed something to hold me accountable so I do weight watchers. I also needed something so I could calculate/plan meals. It's hard if you don't know how to be good because so many foods seem good for you but in reality aren't. WW is not depriving either and that's what I like about it's plan. That gave me the guide and I had to find my inner willpower.

Start one day at a time...

Day one....I am going to drink more water.

Day two....I'm going to go to the grocery store and make some healthier choices.

Day three....I'm going to walk outside, get some sunshine and take a short walk.

Each day you are going to do something for you and then you are going to sit down and make a plan.

For not falling off....I can be as big of a binge eater as anyone else but if I buy low point foods and keep them in the house, binging doesn't have to be catastrophic. It means I go to the grocery store more often to have the fruits/veggies fresh in the house or to restock my favorite items. I keep my salty food for those cravings (baked chips) and fudgicles in the freezer for low point sweet cravings. I am not a yogurt fan but I'm making myself learn to eat the flavored stuff to get my dairy in because that is my weak point. I'm trying to be better about that.

I started off on exercise and I was a whimp. I kept coming back to it and have gotten so much stronger. Tonight I did 20 minutes on the treadmill on 15% incline and then I did 20 minutes on the elliptical on level 10 and increased to level 15 half way through. I burned over 400 calories. I couldn't have done that before but two months into this I am so much stronger.

So how to do this....

ONE DAY AT A TIME

This is what I give back to me. This is what I do FOR me. I like to look nice, I too want to be confdident when OW crosses my path and I want to be healthy more than anything.

I didn't recognize who I was in the mirror any more and one day I said, that's not me and I decided to make the change.

Do it together....we stand united and together we work towards a healthier us. No one can take that from us and that is a gift we give ourselves.

That's my pep talk for anyone struggling to maintain or get started. One day at a time...that's how we do it. I'm down 27 lbs since approx Jan 5th and I'm proud of that. I'm thinking tomorrow might be another loss for me because the scale is being kind tonight.....lol. I measure in the morning though typically because that is what my comparison is to for measuring.

My feet feel better, my knee feels better, my acid reflux is hugely better, my looks are better, my breathing is better, my skin is better.......that is my gift to me. I started this and I'm carrying it to the end. That's my gift to me and that's the inner dialogue I have inside my head now instead of the negatives. I changed my inner dialogue and what a difference it's made.

[This message edited by severely wounded at 7:25 AM, March 6th (Thursday)]

Yippeeee.....down 28.0 lbs today. I'm off work so I'm going to clean house and do a hard workout today. I'm going to make today for ME !!! I even started my cycle and I'm usually up at that time of the month...woohoo....bonus today !!!

[This message edited by severely wounded at 9:04 AM, March 6th (Thursday)]

What time of the day does everyone weigh in? I used to weigh in the morning & that worked fine for me... but the last couple of weeks, I weighed in the morning, did not like what I saw, so for giggles, weighed again in the afternoon, and was down. I have noticed that my fingers are swollen when I wake up in the morning, so I am thinking the morning weigh in may not be a good idea... I am curious to what everyone else thinks about this theory.

I have always weighed less in the morning but I too am finding that I'm up a bit when I first get up but about an hour later, it's lower. I've noticed a little swelling too in my hands so I'm assuming it's just a little water retention that clears when I get up and moving.

I went out last night. (and only had ONE DRINK- yay me) So this morning I was overtired, cranky and very hungry. I decided to grab breakfast in the cafeteria at work. It was all "bad" foods, I suppose. I had a piece of french toast and some sausage. But I passed on the Mountain Dew. Do I get points for that?

Still here.. still plodding along. Down another 2 pounds from last week's weigh in

Haven't been out for a walk in days... it been so cold and yucky

But there's always the elliptical which is getting 40 minutes of my attention tonight whether I like it or not

I didn't work out yesterday- been trying to do at least 15 minutes a day (starting small)- but I went to a concert. I think a few hours of booty shaking made up for not doing any time on the bikes.

And also today I have fitball class. Or really I should say BOOT CAMP. This class is hardcore!

What time of the day does everyone weigh in?

I don't weigh myself, generally. Clothes and the mirror are my "fitness barometer." I have a pair of jeans that I wore pre-pregnacy. When they slide on again without me having to shimmy, squeeze, suck in, etc., I'll have reached my goal. They are size 00. I have not worn those pants since April 06.

Kitty, what concert? calories burned for booty-shaking are dependent on the genre of music. Although, I've always read anything is better than sitting around doing nothing and eating.

I weigh less in the morning.

I think my weekend caught up to me because I'm feeling like my weight is up a bit today (smaller size clothes feeling tighter today.)

It's discouraging because I haven't seen real progress with weightloss in weeks, even though I've been really good with what I'm eating. I know I need to up the exercise.But the weather is getting better so I'm going to start getting outside more. I hate the dark mornings with Daylight savings time but the light in the evening will definitely help!

Annben- Bob Mould. I was not hardcore dancing all over the place. But I was not standing still either.

And also size 00? Holy crap. My current goal is to be a size 12/14. But I'm a 22 now so a 14 seems TINY to me.

Sounds like everyone is doing ok!

My new enforced walking regime (since my car died_ is starting to have an effect - not on my weight yet, but levels of exercise. I ate loads last week, as I was stressed and trying to get used to the walking, but this week has been good, so very hopeful for a loss next week

Wow....the scales are being kind to me today and yesterday. I'm down 29.5 lbs so far now. Yippeeee!!!! Half a pound to hit my next goal and then 18.5 lbs to hit my WW goal.

I'm so happy !!!!!

Okay! Today I am wearing a pair of jeans that I haven't been able to wear in a year and a half. They are the "skinniest" jeans I own, the ones I bought after I dropped a ton of weight on the infidelity diet.

And they fit again! And there isn't a muffin top!

I still have plenty to go - I'm an apple shape and carry my weight in the worst place - my middle. My goal is to lose 10 pounds between now and Memorial Day, and then another 10 by Labor Day.

One, Stinking, Ounce, At a TIME!!!

I had hit a plateau but I think I'm breaking through it. Even so, I can see so many changes in my body. I may not be in my skinny jean like Broken, but I've dropped two pants sizes

I will be working out hard this week and drinking mucho water (along with staying on the eating program). This time next week, I will be on a plane to Italy. Even though I am not at my goal weight, I will be going in far better shape than if I had done nothing!!!!!

CB

You're doing so great. You were worried that you weren't losing but what you are doing is working. Congratulations !!!

I bought a pair of Levi jeans from Walmart last night for $3. They fit great. I'm going to go through my closet this weekend and see what pants fit me again. I'm sure not all of them but perhaps a pair or two will fit.

I laughed when I saw the mushroom top...that's me. I carry all mine in the middle too so I knew exactly what you meant. Made me laugh out loud.

You know....knowing where I keep all my weight was one of my incentives to lose the weight. There was also an article in Good Housekeeping about women that are overweight in their 40's, 50's and 60's....the gist of the story was the increase in diabetes with abdominal weight in each age bracket. It scared me how much it increased each decade. I have two boys that weighed over 9 lbs, I have a very strong family history of diabetes (nine of nine of my biological father's siblings were diabetic), I carry my weight in the abdomen and one blood test that came back marginal in the past. Keeping my weight down truly is the best thing I can do for myself to keep me healthy.....not to mention happy.

The other bonus is what I've mentioned before...my knees, feet and body feels so much better with some of this weight off. What a difference. I feel amazingly better.

Congratulations on getting in those jeans. I'm excited to see what I can fit into too. I wear scrubs for work so they are kind of forgiving of weight but the rest of my wardrobe has been somewhat limited. It will be like shopping except it will be in my own closet....lol.

Everybody's doing so good. It's exciting to watch everyone reclaim themselves. Good job to everyone !!!

Hi gang!

So, do I have popcorn or strawberries?

I didn't budget well today - I ate snacks early and now we're going to watch a movie and I want popcorn and I only have one point left. I could have the popcorn (barely a point) or I could have a dish of frozen strawberries - a better choice since I didn't get enough fruits/veggies. (I'm just ignoring my lack of dairy....)

Next time I have to think ahead and plan my day better.

I went out for Indian food tonight. It's so healthy and yummy.

The date was a bust but dinner was YUM.

And this morning on the way to work I totally resisted the urge to get Mc D's. I resisted and felt strangely empowered instead of feeling resentful.

Hold up... I'm resisting my favorite food (Mc D's), enjoying excercise, AND my fridge is full of vegetables. This is all just way too weird.

Well....I went out to eat twice yesterday so I have no idea what my point values were. I held the cheese on a breakfast crepe but it had sausage, bacon and egg on it still. Then we went out to eat last night and I had beef tenderloin medallions, pototoes with butter in them but I only ate half of them (but boy were they good....lol) and green beens. I still had bank points and I still only used four other points all day so I'm sure in the end I'll be okay. Just hard when you don't know the nutritional value of what you ate.

I worked out yesterday and burned 350 calories and I'm going to work out extra hard today if I feel up to it. I'm also finishing up my cycle so I may be retaining some water too.

I'm living life...not dieting....that's what I keep having to tell myself. I'm getting there....one day at a time.