SurvivingInfidelity.com^®

I’m 5’7” my old requirement was that they be at least my height. WXH was 5’9”, yet even with kitten heels I felt like I towered over him. Biggest perk to being close in height with WXH was that we could trade off driving without having to readjust everything in the car.

Current SO is 6’2” and I really like it, we just fit well together, I can wear any heel, and there is just something wonderful about feeling petite.

If things don’t work with SO, I would probably prefer 3+ inches taller going forward, but I wouldn’t even have a minimum height requirement since character is more important to me than physical these days.

when she wore heels, she was taller than me. I always thought that it was a little sexy for some weird reason.

WXH was the same, a lot of guys I have met actually like being with taller women, perhaps the super model thing? Yet I haven’t met many women who are comfortable with that dynamic. I know my real height, so being taller with heels just feels awkward.

I feel shallow saying yes it would be a dealbreaker. But that is my honest preference. There you go.

I prefer men to be taller than me....but at 5' 3", that isn't hard for most men and it isn't a deal breaker.

My XH...not WX was 5' 4".

What is a deal breaker is lying. Met a guy for a first date once on Match. He said he was 5' 7". He was 5' 1" at best.

I REALLY appreciate all of you guy's input!

[This message edited by Exit Wounds at 9:17 PM, July 20th (Friday)]

Never.

I'm 5'10" and love heels and the man's height has never had any bearing on whether or not I wear them.

A truly confident man won't care, and most rather like it.

Hope4

My WXH is 6'1" and my SO now is as well. I prefer tall (I'm 5'4") vs closer to my height. I have dated men closer to my height and I have a thing about being the same height or close to it with my man. I too like wearing heels sometimes.

Would be a total dealbreaker if he was closer to my height? No. Do I prefer them taller? Yes.

He doesn't seem to be that far from your height. If everything else is in line, then go for it!

You won't be wearing high heels all the time.

For me...yes. I am 5' 10" and don't want a guy shorter, but the same or near is fine.

My LDR FWB is 3-4 inches taller than me, so when I wore my stripper heels I was the same height as him, maybe a little taller, occasionally a little shorter. He loved it! Kissing = perfect height; dirty dancing = perfect height. And in the WB part, it didn't matter

[This message edited by veritas at 12:36 PM, July 18th (Wednesday)]

I am 5'7", and if I only dated men taller than me, I'd almost never get dates.

IMO wearing heels is less about height than about giving your legs and butt a sexier shape. So go ahead and date whomever you want, and wear those heels.

This may be TMI, but when both of you are the same height, it opens up a whole new world to different sexual positions. The parts are lined up pretty much evenly, so standing and doing it becomes a fun option. I dated a girl that was eight inches shorter than me, and I could not get my body down low enough to do that. I am pretty bad at the Limbo.

It's a dealbreaker for some men. I wasn't dating but someone once told me he would have a problem dating me because he liked petite women since he was 5'7" and I am 5'4". He said he liked them to be 5'0" to 5'2". Same thing I guess. But he wanted everything to be in proportion to their height. Small feet and small breasts, which I do have but I guess 5'4" is too tall for some guys.

I'm only 5'3" and like NL, I stick to comfy shoes and they tend to be lower heeled.

I like tall guys but darn near everyone is taller than me, so it's not an issue.

I've never been with anyone my height or shorter so I can't say if it'd be a deal breaker for me but I don't think that it would be if he was a good guy and all.

[This message edited by wildbananas at 12:57 PM, July 18th (Wednesday)]

Tall men are my thing. Like, almost a fetish.

STBX is 6'7". My only other serious ex is 6'6". I am insanely attracted to very tall men.

That said, I'd be willing to date guys closer to my height . . . I dated a guy right at my height in high school and it was ok.

Being around men who are shorter than me makes me feel like a giantess - I feel awkward. I recognize that this is TOTALLY my issue and not anything wrong with them - it's on me.

I'm 5'7" if that makes a difference.

Yes... some of the really really short? I can't do it, but I am 5'9" tall

I'm 5'6" and I prefer guys in the 5'7" to 5'10" range...tall guys really don't do much for me.

I am 5'8", which is on the tall side. My problem is that I am also a "bigger" woman. My WXH was a petite man.

Being with him made me feel like an enormous cow. So, now I find myself gravitating toward taller and bigger men.

I would like someone to be at least my height, maybe a little taller.

I hear yah Williesmom. I am 5'7", my stbxh was 5'6" and very tiny - I like to say that he has the body of a 12 year old boy

Seriously though, now that I can be choosy I am looking for at least 5'8". Must be a bit taller than me and same size or bigger, but not grossly obese. I've been on POF and if their height doesn't meet my requirement I don't reply to their emails LOL Gotta take care of my own needs

tall guys really don't do much for me.

After dating someone who was only a little taller than me, I would have to say that I would cap around 6' for an ideal. Having to strain to look up at someone, stand on tiptoe to kiss standing up... I really like being similar heights.

*5'4.25"*

Height doesn't matter to me. I am 5' 1"ish, and curvy. I don't care about height at all. I've dated men from 6'2" to about 5'5". I actually like a shorter man because I love looking closely into their eyes; I don't wear heels often (though I love them, they don't love me) so maximum heel is 2" for me. I met a man once who was probably the same height as me, and I felt such an attraction to him (he wasn't gorgeous, he was chunky, bald (my favorite), and wore a hearing aid, but daamn he had something about him!). I guess my only requirement is that the guy have some weight on him...I don't care for slender, petite men.

Im an honest 5'8" man. Ive dated mostly shorter women in my life. But Ive dated a few that were a bit taller. It does not matter to me what size a person is. I think we limit our prospects when we assign preferences or deal breakers. Who knows, this could be the man of your dreams and you will simply dismiss him for being short. The woman I dated prior to my XWW was 2 inches taller than I. And when she wore heels and that was mostly all the time she towered over me. It never bothered her nor I. We got along great, had lots of fun and the sex was great. She told me shorter guys were better in bed as they could manuver better. Besides when your laying down height really dont matter. And God has a way of making up for your shortness in other ways if you know what I mean.

I think it's important to be honest about these things. Men shouldn't lie about height, women shouldn't lie about width.

We all have preferences. If we're lied to in order to secure a meeting, no one should be surprised if that's a deal-breaker.