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Angelstar5 (original poster member #35276) posted at 12:33 AM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
yeah we were in bed "ahem" talking sexual fantasies. And his was me and another girl and him (threesome)..i nonchalantly said "what would you do?" He said "take turns with you both"
Why are some WHs so stupid? Seriously? I mean duh, i know most men have that fantasy but a man with two brain cells should probably KNOW NOT to say THAT to a BS who is still REALLY REALLY REALLY PISSED OFF AT HIM. 
Oh and then he said "i might like to share you too, i've always been curious" omg good lord please don't let that make his bucket list!
dumbasshat.
Me 56,WH 55alcoholic/Married 25y
2 kids age 16 and 28
DDay #1-7/3/94 hooker, DDAY #2,2/10/12 found 100's of calls to a hooker gaslighting begins. DDay#3 3/26/12 proof/TT DDay#4 3/28/12 weekly sex with 2 hookers Dec-Feb. Several EAs
Heavy Sigh ( member #34243) posted at 12:41 AM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
Tell him people in hell want ice water, too, but they aren't gonna get it. 
But yeah, telling your wife about fantasies of sex with another woman after your wife's caught you cheating isn't the brightest of ideas.
Perhaps you should have him undergo a brain scan, because with this level of judgment he's shown with this comment, I think there is evidence to suggest he could qualify for disability checks based on mental impairment.
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 1:48 AM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
Ugh - that guy has the emotional sensitivity of a turnip. I'm so sorry.
(((Angelstar5)))
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
wolf_heart ( member #35262) posted at 2:14 AM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
Mine told me that 3 some fantasy and that it was the OW's too before I found out about the A. After all she was "helping" him with our marriage at the time. Never trust a spouse and a close friend, NEVER!
Married 27 years
BW: Me, 48
WH: 48
DDay#2: March 2012
DDay#1: October 1992
Attempting R
Without honesty, loyalty, and commitment; saying you love someone, simply means nothing.
LostMyPrince ( member #29412) posted at 2:28 AM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
Tell him you want a threesome too..you and 2 guys, and he is not one of them.. tell him he'll be sitting in the corner wearing a dunce hat and a sign that says DUMBASS.
Sometimes mascara is the only thing that keeps a girl from breaking down.
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 3:01 AM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
I think your sexual fantasy should be to punch him in the balls.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Angelstar5 (original poster member #35276) posted at 3:06 AM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
ok each of these made me laugh. thanks except wolfhearts, that sucked for you! 
[This message edited by Angelstar5 at 9:07 PM, August 18th (Saturday)]
Me 56,WH 55alcoholic/Married 25y
2 kids age 16 and 28
DDay #1-7/3/94 hooker, DDAY #2,2/10/12 found 100's of calls to a hooker gaslighting begins. DDay#3 3/26/12 proof/TT DDay#4 3/28/12 weekly sex with 2 hookers Dec-Feb. Several EAs
hitbyatruck ( member #23769) posted at 3:07 AM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
Tell him you want a threesome too..you and 2 guys, and he is not one of them.. tell him he'll be sitting in the corner wearing a dunce hat and a sign that says DUMBASS.
agreed!
Married 1998. 2 kids. First discovery 3/2009. Multiple affairs, porn addiction. one failed attempt at R. Nested for over a year. Divorce final 8/2015. XH is now married. I am engaged!
Time Ticks On ( member #33772) posted at 3:56 AM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
That is a f*cked up thing to tell a wife that you betrayed. I agree he is an asshat for saying it.
FBW- 50
FWH-51
D-day- aug 16,2011
Married 25 years- together 27
What doesn't kill me, scars me.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 4:41 AM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
Sounds to me like what he's really telling you is that he wants an open/swinging marriage.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
tinysteps ( member #36104) posted at 4:47 AM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
Ugghhhh! Dumbass is right.
BS-Me (56
WH-Him (62)
M-20 years T-23 years
D'Day April 20, 2012
On the R Rollercoaster
8.2.19 back here again. Something tells me I need to be concerned.
11.6.20 back here again. Why don't I remember why I was concerned in?
What if
Angelstar5 (original poster member #35276) posted at 7:59 AM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
nature girl, i'd say yes, but ummmm not if my legs are open for anyone but another girl 
I think he'd have a coronary if he knew i was with another man...
now THERE'S a thought! 
Me 56,WH 55alcoholic/Married 25y
2 kids age 16 and 28
DDay #1-7/3/94 hooker, DDAY #2,2/10/12 found 100's of calls to a hooker gaslighting begins. DDay#3 3/26/12 proof/TT DDay#4 3/28/12 weekly sex with 2 hookers Dec-Feb. Several EAs
Jesu ( member #36422) posted at 1:19 PM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
I think that's most guys fantasy...
Me: BSO 39
Her: WSO 29
Together: 9 years
Married?: No
Children?: No
OM: A friend of a friend
DD#1: June 18th 2012
Many more DD after TT
PA#1: 1 week in Nov/Dec 2010, which led to a long distance EA
R: ?
Twigs323 ( member #34055) posted at 1:34 PM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
How about this fantasy?
A woman who has seen him through thick and thin, addiction and betrayal, and still stays with him.
He keeps it up this may be his permanent fantasy.
Asshole.
zaci ( member #36138) posted at 4:03 PM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
I know almost pretty much every guy thinks this at some point but I think if they are really into the 3some thing they should bring it up on the first date so you have a good chance to run if you want. Not a smart thing to bring up if you just had an A. I like LMP and Wmom ideas....LOL.
ME : BS 35
HIM : WH 49
MARRIED 7YRS TOGETHER 12 YRS
3 KIDS AGED 6,3&9 mo.
DDAY: JUNE 2012 (he confessed to 1xPA with some hoebag extraordinaire who lived next to the house he was roofing LAST SUMMER when i was 7 mo preggs).
Angelstar5 (original poster member #35276) posted at 10:49 PM on Sunday, August 19th, 2012
yeah, after a few days i'm finding it kind of funny in a pissed off sort of way. I know he isnt asking me to do that, and isnt asking me if its alright to pursue the fantasy,and that yes, it is pretty much every mans fantasy, but it just makes me go HUH that a grown man with a decent IQ could be so completely STUPID to say THAT after just having an A.
If he brings it up again, I might have to tell him my fantasy is meeting Lorena Bobbitt and asking her how exactly was it she got off with a slap on the wrist..i need to refresh my memory.
Me 56,WH 55alcoholic/Married 25y
2 kids age 16 and 28
DDay #1-7/3/94 hooker, DDAY #2,2/10/12 found 100's of calls to a hooker gaslighting begins. DDay#3 3/26/12 proof/TT DDay#4 3/28/12 weekly sex with 2 hookers Dec-Feb. Several EAs
Jesu ( member #36422) posted at 2:37 AM on Monday, August 20th, 2012
it just makes me go HUH that a grown man with a decent IQ could be so completely STUPID to say THAT after just having an A.
Oh yeah, you are completely right, he is definitely an idiot...
Me: BSO 39
Her: WSO 29
Together: 9 years
Married?: No
Children?: No
OM: A friend of a friend
DD#1: June 18th 2012
Many more DD after TT
PA#1: 1 week in Nov/Dec 2010, which led to a long distance EA
R: ?
why2008 ( member #18378) posted at 5:21 AM on Monday, August 20th, 2012
I think your sexual fantasy should be to punch him in the balls.
Me - BS - 46
Him - WS - 44
Two daughters / 10 and 7
LonelyHusband ( member #34145) posted at 2:57 PM on Monday, August 20th, 2012
I think your sexual fantasy should be to punch him in the balls.
And tell him you'd like to take turns with kicking and punching them.
Reconciling.
“A wizard is never late. Nor is he ever early. He arrives precisely when he means to".
Apparently not an appropriate reason for coming home drunk at 2AM.
2married2quit ( member #36555) posted at 3:01 PM on Monday, August 20th, 2012
He's still in the clouds. Mine said the same thing about me and the OM in bed with her taking turns. Sounds like fun, but after what happened and during this time of pain, certainly not a good fantasy.
If he would come down from the clouds he would see how offensive that thought is to you right at this moment. Least he was honest though.
BS - Me 47 WS - Her 45 ( she's a childhood sexual abuse survivor)
DDAY -#1- June 2012/ #2 -June 2015 / #3-August 2015
Married 25yrs. 2kids
She had 2 affairs with two different men.
Status: divorced.
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