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hexed ( member #19258) posted at 5:22 AM on Friday, March 8th, 2013
My Dad asked my mom to marry him after 3 dates. She wouldn't say yes for another year. He kept asking. They were together over 20 years. Not 70 years but a good long time.
TG and I had the exclusivity talk after about 2 months. It was not 'long term relationship' talk. it was only a sexual monogamy talk. Somewhere around 6 months we started having talks about the long term situation.
I was feeling fairly strongly that we were headed to a LTR when we became sexually intimate but that's not what exclusivity meant for either of us.
I do know that TG quit seeing a gal he had been dating casually before our first date. I think he was exclusive from the git go.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
HopeImOverIt ( member #34517) posted at 11:29 PM on Friday, March 8th, 2013
I don't see the problem with going "exclusive" quickly. What exactly are you risking? If things go south, you can become UNexclusive immediately by accepting a date with someone else.
Marriage is not nearly so quick and easy to get out of.
Me: BW (52)
ExWH: (53)
2 teen-age boys
Divorced
CheshCat ( member #27546) posted at 4:08 AM on Saturday, March 9th, 2013
"Marry in haste, repent at leisure"
... has been around since the 1600s.
Haven't heard anything about exclusivity, though.
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This proverbial saying was first expressed in print by William Congreve in his comedy of manners The Old Batchelour, 1693:
Thus grief still treads upon the heels of pleasure:
Married in haste, we may repent at leisure.
[This message edited by CheshCat at 10:12 PM, March 8th (Friday)]
"Another conversation killed awkwardly! Yes! Point to my side." - Chesh's Brother
Moi : BS MH 30mumble
Him : WS Abuse Adultery Addict Six-figure Sociopath = Aaass
... I picked a winner!
DDay - 2006 ad naseam
Divorced! 2013
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