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I had to drop off my son last night after his visitation this weekend. I had my lady friend with me as she needed a ride home as well. Normally she drives her own car but she did not drive it this weekend. I usually don't let XWW know what goes on in my social life but had no choice last night as time was a consideration. We pull up to her house and son gives me a kiss and hug goodbye. He also hugs my friend and goes toward the house. The whole time my XWW is staring at my lady friend with this look of distain. Normally when I am alone the XWW usually stays inside till he gets in or sometimes opens the door and shoots me a dirty look. But she stood there last night just staring. IDK what she expects. But I do have a life that includes women in it. As this was the first time she saw it firsthand I guess she was pissed.

Since our S/D she has had a string of affairs with MM and now is finally with a single guy. They are supposed to get M from what I hear. So why the dirty looks ? Perhaps her life with this young dude is not so great. He is after all only 33 years old compared to her 47. Something I don't get but its none of my business. I wish her well and feel sorry for the poor guy as he don't know what he is getting into. She's not my problem anymore. What I think is funny is that these WS' who insist on being unremorseful and never did anything to change themselves get jealous when you move on.

What did she think I've been doing sitting home alone and waiting for her return ? We are talking many years since the D here. Lady friend and I had a good laugh about this after we dropped son off. She was actually the one who noticed as I don't engage XWW. Lady friend was prepared to introduce herself should she actually come to the car. She is D also and has a normal and civil relationship with her Ex and co-parents well with him. She said she would have at least come out and introduce herself as she would want to know who her child is around. She just does not get the whole bullshit my XWW insists on continuing. I told her that I was not exaggerating about how irrational my XWW is. Until you have to deal with it firsthand you have no idea. I found the whole situation kind of funny myself.

From what you describe.... did WS know that you have a "lady friend" around your child? Or, was this a surprise to her?

they. just. don't. get. it.

I got a chuckle out of this post stronger. The ol'green-eyed monster seems to have paid a visit to your XWW. Hmmmm......wonder how she likes the flip side of the coin?

You life is none of her concern. Aren't you glad that her life in no longer your concern?

It could be jealousy regarding your child. This isn't quite the same but even though my exWS and I are separated, the first time he told me he was at his new GF's house hanging out with her kids, I was livid. I seriously hate every moment he spends with her kids, because he's not with his. And she isn't even the OW.

If I ever saw one of my kids hanging out with new GF, I think I'd have a similar reaction. I don't think it matters if you're the wayward or the betrayed. Seeing your kids with your....substitute, successor?....has to dredge up some feelings.

I cant see why she would be upset about my sons being in the company of my lady friend. My XWW has exposed my poor little man to each and every OM and BF she has had. Shit she is planning on marrying her young BF. And trust me my son is always around that guy. Im lucky that my son gets along with her new guy. And per my son he is very nice to him. And I would never have anyone I thought was a bad influence around my child. It so happens I have known this woman since childhood. She has had a rough ride in the M department herself. I assume it was more that my XWW saw for the first time that I have moved on. I normally do not let her inside of my life. And I would not have let her see my friend if circumstance did not intervene. I had to get him home on time or I would have dropped off my GF first. I know for a fact that my XWW would be more than happy to see me alone for the rest of my life. But too bad so sad. I waited a very long time to start seeing people. I really have nothing to hide.

So, you are surprised she holds you to a different standard than she holds herself too?

I kind of thought this was WAS par for the course.

Perhaps her life with this young dude is not so great. He is after all only 33 years old compared to her 47. Something I don't get but its none of my business.

Nothing wrong with that. Most people don't blink an eye if the genders are reversed...and some women here have younger fellas and it works well for them.

I get along well with my ex and have never seen a GF. I'm sure the first time I do it will be a bit weird.

Success is the best revenge.