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million pieces (original poster member #27539) posted at 12:47 PM on Tuesday, March 19th, 2013
My ds was in an all day DI tournament on Sat (made it to states!), my SO came over to watch my dd8 pretty much all day. She was in heaven, undivided attention all day. He really enjoyed himself too as he one has one son, always wanted more kids, esp a girl and well, things happened in his marriage that precluded having more kids. So anyway, I get this email during the tournament that Addie is involving him in a huge craft project (he hasn't done crafts in YEARS w his son) and they ended up making a bday card for her father and a Happy Anniversary card for ex and wifetress 
I guess better him than me 
And I swear, he was just as proud of his handiwork as she was and kept reminding me to look at it before I dropped it off w the kids at ex's house.
I wonder what ex thought when dd told him who helped her 
I guess we've done a good job hiding our animosity towards each other that my dd thinks nothing of getting my SO to help her make things for my ex. 
Me - 52 D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later, Divorced 11/15/11!!!!
damncutekitty ( member #5929) posted at 2:03 PM on Tuesday, March 19th, 2013
12/18/15 found out my now EX boyfriend was trolling CL for underage girls. From the cops. The fun never stops.
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 3:12 PM on Tuesday, March 19th, 2013
I love this post. It's good to see the world through a kid's eyes. 
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
hummingbird8 ( member #25086) posted at 4:10 PM on Tuesday, March 19th, 2013
I loved reading this! I have so much admiration for parents who can put their anger about what happened in the marriage aside and think of their kids.
Your children are so very lucky. And your SO sounds wonderful too.
aLadypilot ( member #1822) posted at 8:41 PM on Tuesday, March 19th, 2013
Wonderful! You are doing so well by her.
Edited to add: Doing great with all your kids!
[This message edited by aLadypilot at 2:41 PM, March 19th (Tuesday)]
Divorced 9/2010
Just married 7/4/13
meaniemouse ( member #10798) posted at 8:40 PM on Wednesday, March 20th, 2013
That's a great story and a wonderful example of putting the children first. I admire you very much.
Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James
MyVoice ( member #35695) posted at 9:00 PM on Wednesday, March 20th, 2013
Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown
million pieces (original poster member #27539) posted at 2:41 AM on Thursday, March 21st, 2013
thanks everyone, this is part of my reward for all the times I've almost bitten off my tongue. I just hope it never backfires because I've "hid" things from my kids.
Me - 52 D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later, Divorced 11/15/11!!!!
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 4:20 AM on Thursday, March 21st, 2013
This shows how well you've handled thing for your kids.
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 2:35 PM on Thursday, March 21st, 2013
Good job! - to both of you.
I know my dad was shitty to my mom the last years of their M. However, I am so grateful that they managed to co-parent well.
If I had had to choose sides, I would've had to side with my mom. I wouldn't have a relationship with my Dad now. I love him. I know he's pretty messed up in some ways but he's not a bad dad. You've done your kids such a huge thing by being such an awesome mom
and way to go SO!
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
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