I have to agree with turned123. Saying we can NEVER trust again or put one's self out there again is a little like saying I broke my ankle once so I don't think I'll ever trust enough to walk again.
The real issue is not whether we can trust again, find love again, or that we are addicted to love.
We ARE addicted: just not to love.
We're addicted to the perceived safety of our relationships. In essence we exaggerated the good qualities of our SO's and ignored the bad that was in them. As a result we settled for people who were flawed, ready to bolt from problems and issues and largely incapable of change.
We shouldn't judge them too harshly I think, mostly because we participated in our own deception. Or more properly, we allowed our selves to be deceived.
I know this sounds terrible, but better to live without hope of finding another person in whom we put blind faith. Instead we should come to the realization that the only person with whom we will take all of life's journey is...ourselves. No matter how strong the bonds we forge with another, no matter how powerful the feelings, nor how loyal our partner, we will one day lose them. Better to contemplate how we can overcome our addiction to perceptions of safety than to seek another who will inevitably disappoint us.
[This message edited by phoenixrivers at 11:49 AM, March 24th (Sunday)]
