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Where did u have ur WH served?

Someone JUST posted this question a little while ago. Or I'm having a flashback.

I'm an anomaly - wasband went with me to the courthouse to file, so I handed him a copy in the county Recorder's office. Served.

My L sent the documents to STBX's L. Seemed like the right thing to do for us.

Yea...

Guilty as charged

Didn't get much so I thought I would ask again..

I want to have him served at work but my sister doesn't think it's a good idea since they work together but I don't know.

My L suggested not serving him at work. He was served right after getting home from work..

Your ex and your sister work together or your ex and the AP work together?

I had him served at home and I told him to expect it. I was actually the one to answer the door when the constable arrived.

He was served at work. I didn't know where he was staying at the time.

He's not an ex yet

But wh and ow work together...

Peridot..love ur by line!

[This message edited by FogHater at 3:04 PM, April 12th (Friday)]

Mine didnt know when it was coming. It was like a mafia hit.

My lawyer called him, told him she represented his wife in an action for divorce, and that she had papers for him. She gave him thirty minutes to pick them up in person or else she was ready to send a server to his office - where the slunt works too. She basically told him we could do this the easy way or the hard way.

She called and told me he must have RAN to her office. He got there within minutes, red in the face and out of breath. I'm pretty sure his underwear had a giant shit stain in them that day too!

He was at his folks' place at the time. Told him and his folks to expect the papers.

I'm not sure why it's a problem to serve him at work where the OW also works. Seems like she would like to know he's getting dumped so she can start pressuring him to get M. Seems like that's when it tends to implode...when the A becomes a "legitimate" relationship.

That's what I thought..

But I have a feeling she is pressuring him into leaving me so they can get married.

When this started she was not, now she isn't so.....

She can have him, I guess she thinks she getting a prize

Mine was served at work in front of all his coworkers.

You see, he was lying to everyone and telling them that I didn't know what I was talking about when I said he was cheating. He told the church people and all our neighbors I was crazy.

They all know that I am not crazy now and I mean business, WH especially.

WH mentions this to me, to this day, 3 yrs later how it hurt him.

I had served XWH when he came over to pick up the kids.

Friend and I were sitting outside chatting (and waiting for XWH to show up). XWH drove up, Friend walked over and handed him the paperwork.

I could hear my kids in the house. DS said to DD, "Hurry up. Dad's outside and he wants to leave right now."

LOL at this memory....

I went to the courthouse, filed the papers, came back to the house, handed him the papers and had him sign the form that he got them.

Fast-forward a month to our very first hearing....commissioner laid out the rules since neither of us had L's at the time.

She asked how I served him and I told her went to the courthouse, came home and handed them to him. She kinda looked at me funny....and told us that wasn't *legal*.

So he was *technically* served while sitting in the courtroom.

I had mine served at our home.

At the time, I couldn't trust he was where he said he was (like during work hours), so I arranged a dinner w/ a GF while on Friday night, 'forcing' him to be at home with kids. (they were little enough that it was nothing to them that someone knocked on the door w/ papers for dad). Not that he cared, he was probably relieved; filing is work. Fucking around was fun. I got to do the work part every step of way.

Now, I wanted to punch it up and serve him on a trip they had planned for a few weeks later but #1, my attorney said it was a waste of $ (it would've been) and #2, XH was coming into money RIGHT before that trip, so me filing sooner protected that to a degree. He probably would've filed on me AND taken all that $ (which he more or less did, but that's another post).

I had him served at work, but at his job he is always in and out of buildings, so it just so happens that the person that served him knew him, (I didn't know that was hired by my lawyer) _ so apparently, STBX, was walking down the street, and the guy was yelling out to him "STBX I have court papers for you"

Poor thing, was so embarassed!

I was at work, kids were at friends, when I got home, left me a sticky note on top of court papers with " Don't ever tell me again, that you love me, after what you just did to me!!!" That showed How much of a fog he was still under!

Jackie - I wanted to at work SO bad. XH's image is so fucking important to him, like work image (obviously not home one, cheater!) but I never knew if he was REALLY there...and it costed $ everytime someone is sent to serve.

I would've LOVED to do it at work, he probably would've peed his pants, asshat.

And like yours - he felt 'victimized'. He told me that night, once I got home that I was a bitch to do it, but he understood. And also how he didn't think I had the balls.

After that though, he was sure to tell everyone how *I* served him...but conveniently left out the 'why'. As if I went batshit crazy one day to leave ever-so-special HIM!!!

And I didn't even file because I 'had' balls - I filed in hopes of winning him back. So sad at time. I thought it'd wake him up. Ha!

Wannabe.. me too I filed to "snap him out of it"!

Because he wanted stay together but that he would go NC, with OW, " when he was ready" not when I told him to! Asshat! The nerve!

He promised all kinds of things a few days later, but it was all lies, I hadn't found SI then, or I would not been in "the fog" myself!

I had him served at work, and yes his whore-slut works there too. He was pretty pissed off about it, and came home cocked off. Tough shit, cheater! That's what happens when your wife decides its enough. Served!