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scotslass (original poster member #39204) posted at 6:25 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
I do have family that offered to pay for a lawyer but hate to go down this road. I am gathering all my information to show the judge on set out the facts
Do you think a lawyer would do any different?
I also have four cases of contempt of court against him
1. I have an injunction that he is not allowed alcohol around the children when in his possession. I have a text from my son to daughter that him and dad are at a bar and dad is drinking beer.
2. We were court ordered to use ourfamilywizard to communicate via email. I have texts from him this past month that can not afford to pay the $99 yearly fee.
3 it is court ordered that he pay me 30 percent of his 2012 bonus check. He has not done so and refuses to answer my emails and text regarding this.
4. I have 50 percent with my older two and with the16 year old hiding out there I called him to have her come to me and he refuses to get involved. Is this contempt of the court order? :
Me. - moving on and upward !!!
la433 ( member #38835) posted at 6:35 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
Do you think a lawyer would do any different?
Yes. Yes! YES!! Sometimes we need someone to show others what we can not see for ourselves.
And yes he is violating a court order by not bringing the 16 yr old back.
If all of what you say is true, I would not hesitate to ask the family for money to do this. Hell, you have family that offered---take it!
"Arise and be all that you dreamed." ~Flyleaf
scotslass (original poster member #39204) posted at 6:40 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
I have reached out to my divorce support group for a lawyers contact info. One of the ladies used them and he was a ball breaker! Sorry to be so crude
I don't know if I want to use my original lawyer as she was not that aggressive
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la433 ( member #38835) posted at 6:43 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
Yes! Good for you.
If there is anyone that is going to stop the downward spiral of your kids, it is you.
They may hate you for a while, but you're doing the right thing.
I don't know if I want to use my original lawyer as she was not that aggressive
your gut is telling you something here.
[This message edited by la433 at 12:48 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)]
"Arise and be all that you dreamed." ~Flyleaf
la433 ( member #38835) posted at 7:04 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
Keep posting if you can, but it is secondary. Focus on getting this done.
Think of the past as having activated the missle defense shield against incoming. It is now time to go on the offensive.
"Take no prisoners, take no shit."
"Arise and be all that you dreamed." ~Flyleaf
scotslass (original poster member #39204) posted at 7:49 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
I really need prayers for the next few days.
Me. - moving on and upward !!!
la433 ( member #38835) posted at 7:55 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
You got 'em from this end. Only hope others out there will join in.
"Arise and be all that you dreamed." ~Flyleaf
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 8:16 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
Praying for you and your kids, scotslass.
Hugs sent too,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
CheaterMagnet ( member #33581) posted at 8:54 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
la433 has given you very sound advice. I'm so glad you are following it.
(((((HUGS))))) and prayers for you.
You can do this.
If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 11:20 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
I cannot say this emphatically enough...
GET AN ATTORNEY!
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
scotslass (original poster member #39204) posted at 11:28 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
I only hope and pray it is not too late to get an attorney. Any advice would be great. I Ahmed getting to the frantic stage.
Me. - moving on and upward !!!
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 11:31 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
If you cannot get one in time. You might try asking the court for a postponement
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
scotslass (original poster member #39204) posted at 11:42 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
Does anyone know that if I hire a lawyer and he does not, will he then ask for a continuance?
I really feel like my 16 year old is in crisis. But she won't come anywhere near me. I am so worried about this.
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Random thoughts ( member #2959) posted at 11:48 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
The next time your underage kids throw a party at the house I suggest you send the police over there.
Here in NJ parents can be and have been sued by the parents of the kids that went over to the party house got trashed, drove drunk and crashed and were hurt.
Those three words are said too much and not enough.Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol.FWW
scotslass (original poster member #39204) posted at 11:50 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
I have driven by and only saw one car there. The obstacle is that I hear about the party after the event.
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ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 12:03 AM on Thursday, May 9th, 2013
OMG! Get an attorney asap! Please!!!
“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 12:30 AM on Thursday, May 9th, 2013
Thinking of you scotslass. You'll get through this one step at a time. You're stronger than you think! (((scotslass)))
Failure is success if we learn from it.
scotslass (original poster member #39204) posted at 12:38 AM on Thursday, May 9th, 2013
Thanks to all for their good wishes. I know I am strong and the last three years have show me the woman I have become
My 18 year old will be with me tonight after his youth leadership meeting at our church. I am off to my divorce support group at the same church. I think it may be time to have an honest one to one chat with him.
[This message edited by scotslass at 8:38 PM, May 8th (Wednesday)]
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la433 ( member #38835) posted at 3:30 AM on Thursday, May 9th, 2013
Make sure you come clean with him about his father. He needs to know, more than you will ever believe.
Though it's no guarantee, hearing the truth from you MIGHT just prevent him being like his father.
"Arise and be all that you dreamed." ~Flyleaf
la433 ( member #38835) posted at 3:47 AM on Thursday, May 9th, 2013
Be strong. It sounds as if you're a believer. Consider this. Right now you're in a spiritual battle. You really think it's wise to go into battle alone? Don't worry about what *he* is going to do. If he ask for a continuance, so what? If he does, then your lawyer should seek a temporary order of custody until the issue can be resolved. His actions should not deter you from what you have to do in order to protect the precious fragile souls of your children.
"Arise and be all that you dreamed." ~Flyleaf
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