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hopeful18 (original poster member #19234) posted at 3:57 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
So after discovering false r after six years we have again been working towards R. It's been about a month. During mc we talked about how hard it is for wh to express himself. I said it feels like indifference. Mc and wh believe he has remorseful feelings but needs to tell me. During the first r this was always an issue. I wanted him to bring it up or reassure me more. Today he said to me "I love you so much and I feel so badly about what I did." This was the first time it felt like it came from him. Maybe it felt genuine. I am thinking maybe the difference between regret and remorse. It felt like remorse may be setting in.
Theradin ( member #38518) posted at 4:33 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
That sounds like a step in the right direction! Though, six years of false R is startling. Hopefully he can see the damage he has caused for you and others, and can truly change.
You are incredibly strong to go through this a second time after already trying R. I know I wouldn't be able to do that!
Best of luck to you.
BH (me): 35
WW: 34
1 kid (7 y/o)
multiple affairs spanning our entire 11-year marriage
multiple d-days over the last 3 years (most recently: 1/3/2016)
divorced and finally released from this prison: 2/26/2016
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 8:23 PM on Wednesday, May 8th, 2013
An excellent step. 
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