I know how hard it can be do feel completely disinterested in physical intimacy with a WS.
One thing I'm wondering is if you are your WH have begun to truly work on issues associated with the A? Like, has he given you full disclosure to everything you need/want to know? Do you feel he is committed to rebuilding the marriage, and is remorseful? If not, it's very challenging to be physically intimate ("vulnerable", in a sense) to someone who has violated you in such a destructive way. Well, at least without a LOT of alcohol or other things..!
If he is "doing all the right things", and after almost a year you still are feeling this way, then there may be a chance that he, as a person, as a husband, etc., is simply incompatible with you, and that you cannot trust me. That might be something to consider, and at least explore, if for no other reason than to rule it out.
For me, I was quite promiscuous prior to meeting my WW. I never had affairs or anything like that, but had a lot of ONS-like relationships, and superficial/fun/lighthearted relationships with a lot of girls. So, for me, intimacy was always something quite different, as it didn't touch the soul, so to speak. It was more playful and fun. I'm not sure if you're like that or not? If you're a woman who has had very deep intimacy, then being playful/having fun with your WH may not be something you can do. And I'm not suggesting you do that forever. Rather, I'm just saying that it may work to do that while you are healing from the trauma and getting your "house" back in order so that you can work to fully trust your WH.
Best of luck to you.
