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Chefj9 (original poster member #38604) posted at 5:53 PM on Sunday, May 19th, 2013
I have some fairly strong indicators that OW might be on the way to our home state to make a final plea to my WH.
I don't have anything concrete, but some comments I read on FB, the fact that she's traveling and now the post is gone and my intuition. Which, btw has been SPOT on in predicting her every move.
Any advice on what to do if she shows up at my front door? Do I just sit here and wait to see what happens, do I send a warning? At a loss.
I am so over this situation, I could just scream.
ME - BS 50, Him - WS 46 trying to "R"
4 DD's - blended 26,16, 15 and 13
Multi DDays the grand finale 5/13/2013
From here on out, I am only interested in what is real. Real people, real feelings, that's it, that's all I'm intere
doggiemom12 ( member #36041) posted at 5:55 PM on Sunday, May 19th, 2013
If she shows up call the police. She is trespassing if she is on your property uninvited.
Just wash your hands of it.
White bird must fly or she will die . . .
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 6:11 PM on Sunday, May 19th, 2013
I'd try to get a police officer, or someone dressed as one, to be hanging out on the front porch intermittently. 
(Granted my family is all police so that is easier for me to arrange...)
Nothing says go away better than the thread of arrest for trespassing.
Where is your WH in all of this. Have you talked to him about this possibility? (Her coming over)
I wouldn't make any preemptive comments. Just prepare yourself as best you can and try to set the thoughts aside unless you need to take action later.
(((Chefj9)))
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Euphonasia ( new member #39285) posted at 6:16 PM on Sunday, May 19th, 2013
The second you see OW pull up to your house, call the cops. Seriously. Things like this have a way of spiraling out of control fairly quickly. I reiterate. Call the cops. For your own sake.
((((((((((Hugs))))))))))
"When I die, hallelujah bye and bye, I'll fly away."
Multiple D-days, divorcing
sullymeishadomi ( member #16305) posted at 6:28 PM on Sunday, May 19th, 2013
The ow who made a doll resembling your wh? If its her, call the cops as soon as the stank rounds the corner to your street.
Bit of a t/j...I dont get why a female chases a mm to his family home. Broken just isnt a good enough description.
[This message edited by sullymeishadomi at 12:29 PM, May 19th (Sunday)]
cosmicjoke ( member #39159) posted at 7:19 PM on Sunday, May 19th, 2013
I would say have the cops be ready to come, tell them there is an unwanted psycho trespasser on your property. And when she gets there have your hub deal with her while you stand there (next to him) watching!! That would be PRICELESS!!!! Most people never get this chance.. And it would be so revealing to see where your H's head is at; where his loyalty lies. And to have him throw her under the bus right in front of you... god that would be the best thing ever.
However the worst case scenario would be that she's a BB and may get violent. (Hence the police involvement.)
Best case: Maybe all this bullshit drama that you never asked for would be the perfect thing to make your H feel epically stupid and REALLY get it-- why you don't 'play games' with people.. you can't just use them, then snap your fingers and make them 'go away'.....!
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 7:21 PM on Sunday, May 19th, 2013
In the meantime (and I posted this in Wayward as well), BLOCK her on Facebook. Your "monitoring" serves no purpose other than to divert attention from where it needs to be directed.
If OW shows up and is threatening in any way, call the police.
Otherwise, focus on what needs your attention.
It's not her.
BLOCK her. If she's blocked, it's as if she no longer exists.
It's time to start relegating her to that position.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 7:37 PM on Sunday, May 19th, 2013
I wonder if she's wearing adult diapers...
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 8:10 PM on Sunday, May 19th, 2013
^^^^^^^^Scarey!^^^^^^^^
This is one of my revenge fantasies. That OW shows up at my front door. It would not let it even get a word out. A punch straight into the throat. Then a call to the police that a cray cray stalker is on my property! Buh-bye! 
I am not recommending this. Just my little fantasy.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 9:13 PM on Sunday, May 19th, 2013
I'm with Sister. But that's my fantasy.
Be on alert, keep things locked up and perhaps let the neighbors that an old acquaintance has been having mental problems and may show up while in a delusional state, asking them to call you and the police if they see anything strange.
I'm sorry that the fallout from infidelity is so wide flung. It sucks.
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
scared&stronger ( member #15942) posted at 9:31 PM on Sunday, May 19th, 2013
I'd be sitting on my front porch with my loaded shotgun, kicking back drinking a beer, and playing some butt kicking music.
WS 45
BS 43
Met when we were 17 and 15. Together since 1983, married since 1985. Two kids, B21, G15.
d-day 4-3-07
Life has a way of making us get our panties in a wad.....I refuse to wear panties ever again.
tryingmybest2011 ( member #32584) posted at 9:54 PM on Sunday, May 19th, 2013
Hilarious comment about the diapers - glad I wasn't drinking anything, or it would have come out my nose.
I agree - if she shows up, call the cops. I also agree with letting the neighbours know. Do you know when she would be arriving, if she is? Is it possible to not have any kids home at that point?
And what's this about a doll? A DOLL?I'm picturing either a voodoo doll, or one of those "boyfriend pillows"...
BS: me - 42
WH: him - 42
DD: 12
DD: 5
Married over 12 years, together for 21.
DD#1: 12/12/10 - LTA of 3 years, 2 mos.
DD#2: 02/02/11 - 2 EA/PA with coworkers, a month after the LTA was ended (by OW).
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