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I really appreciate this post because I was wondering if I am putting too much significance onto the date itself? It will be this Saturday and I was dreading it. However, we have had some good conversations reflecting on how we both have survived this past year. We also were able to talk about what we still need to do in R.

We are going to spend part of the day with 2 of our adorable grandsons and then take a long ATV ride. A favorite restaurant and then some alone time for sure

We don't want to make it a "day of mourning" or a "national holiday". Maybe a day of hope for better things to come?!

Our first year D-Day anniversary is coming up in August. Dates stick in my mind, so I know I won't be able to ignore it. It will be rough, but there are two perversely satisfying aspects to it too: First, it was the day that my long-standing suspicions were confirmed, which proved that I was not crazy or paranoid. Second, he went NC right away. I remember the intense relief when he told me all about the NC phone call--the song from The Wizard of Oz kept playing through my mind, "Hey-ho, the witch is dead."

It will still be a rough day, though, becaus it means that nine years of our marriage were basically meaningless.

Thanks for all the thoughts and insight. Interesting thoughts across the board.

I'm a guy and although I'm not big on dates, this one is VERY different. There was before, and then there's after. Like someone above said, it was the death of my old marriage. It will never be the same. Hopefully better.