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JessicaFL127 (original poster member #26864) posted at 1:06 AM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Ugh. This dating thing is brutal. I recently ran into a doctor who worked at a research lab that I worked with quite a bit in 2010. I remembered him and wound up giving him my number. He kept texting me and asking me to meet him *right now* for a drink and I had to remind him that I have two boys and can't do that but i can meet him at x day and time. Then he asked me again the same thing, two days later and got the same response. Then I asked him how his residency was going and if he was still in research, etc and he was having none of it. He just wanted me to send him a picture of myself? I sent him one and he was all" no, too many clothes!" He was just all about sex and got pissed when i laughed it off, saying he had the wrong girl for that and stopped speaking to me altogether. His last text to me was "Fine!" 
BW,35
divorced for 10 years
Happily remarried to a much better choice.:D
mom to two awesome boys,14 and 13
And now to a beautiful baby girl, 1 <3
"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 1:10 AM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Ugh.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
JessicaFL127 (original poster member #26864) posted at 1:10 AM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Sorry, my phone is simple today. This guy is just one example, but he surprised me since we had met before and he didn't seem like a teenage boy then. (he is 28) I always get the "you are beautiful, let's meet RIGHT NOW" or "you are beautiful, why are you still wearing clothes?" Ugh. I don't want to have to deal with this junk.
BW,35
divorced for 10 years
Happily remarried to a much better choice.:D
mom to two awesome boys,14 and 13
And now to a beautiful baby girl, 1 <3
"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 2:01 AM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Oh my gosh, yeah, why ARE you still wearing clothes? 
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 2:07 AM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Ugh. I don't want to have to deal with this junk.
So....I misread "this" as "his"
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
JessicaFL127 (original poster member #26864) posted at 2:54 AM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Ama. That is probably the next flavor of creeper that I will have to deal with- the guy with the junk pics. Lord, this is seriously depressing, I am just about to throw in the towel.
BW,35
divorced for 10 years
Happily remarried to a much better choice.:D
mom to two awesome boys,14 and 13
And now to a beautiful baby girl, 1 <3
"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 3:11 AM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Well, if you've found every creep in St. Louis, then you're due to find a gem next. 
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 3:28 AM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
That guy is a loser....you definitely deserve way better - glad he showed you who he was so quickly though. 
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
Grace and Flowers ( member #34431) posted at 3:43 AM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Jessica...
I'm in STL too...and OLD has been utterly dismal for me. I've had married guys contact me, convicted felons, guys with no jobs who would like to move in with me , and yes...the "junk pic" guys. Guys who seem normal....until they get my phone number and start texting a million times a day. I am so tired of being asked to Skype with guys to watch them get off.
Is it St. Louis? Is it me? I tried several different OLD sites....my profiles were innocuous, my pics chaste, my intentions VERY clear (no ONS, FWBs, etc).
I never even met a guy I wanted to just stay friends with. Ugh.
Weirdly, I DID meet a guy through an unrelated (not dating) Craigslist ad. We struck up a friendship, and now we're dating and having fun.
But if/when we break it off, I don't think I'll be going back to OLD. It was just too weird and creepy.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 3:52 AM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Note to self: don't date in St. Louis
Ugh. I don't want to have to deal with this junk.
So....I misread "this" as "his"
Um, yeah. Me too. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
JessicaFL127 (original poster member #26864) posted at 4:09 AM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Thanks, girls. I talked to a good friend tonight about it also and i feel better having gotten it out. I just really am not sure I want to keep sorting through the creeps and weirdos, especially since they seem to be all I find.
BW,35
divorced for 10 years
Happily remarried to a much better choice.:D
mom to two awesome boys,14 and 13
And now to a beautiful baby girl, 1 <3
"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 10:22 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
I know a couple great guys I can introduce you to, Jessica. Their names are Ben and Jerry. We're pretty close, but I can share. 
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Threnody ( member #1558) posted at 10:25 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Kind of a topic jerk, but what do you do with the junk photos? I'd be tempted to keep them then send them to the fools who say things like "No, too many clothes!"
“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 10:33 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
oh, geesh, I have been around too many teenage boys in my lifetime....
t/j "topic jerk" ? I always thought it was "thread jack" ........... and NEITHER one is exactly appropriate for this topic!!
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 10:47 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Thren! 
That's actually maybe the best idea I've ever heard.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Housefulloflove ( member #38458) posted at 10:52 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Threnody!!
I've had some "junk" photos recently sent to me by a guy I VERY recently met (we didn't meet online). Apparently being sent a penis-pic is the new "getting to know each other".
I was going to just delete them but now...
Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 10:55 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Apparently being sent a penis-pic is the new "getting to know each other"
I know, right!?
I'm always tempted to be like, "Oh, thanks for warning me ahead of time so I wouldn't be surprised..."
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
WakingFromADream ( member #33934) posted at 11:01 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
"Oh, thanks for warning me ahead of time so I wouldn't be surprised..."
Truth in advertising?
Me(37) DS(9) DD 11/16/11 EA(PA?) M 11y D 9/3/13
Don't make anyone a priority when you are only an option.
InTheRabbitHole ( member #19319) posted at 11:28 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
I just don't get this. Penis is great.. provided I'm in the same room. Who sends junk shots out in to the universe??
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 12:45 AM on Sunday, June 9th, 2013
Kind of a topic jerk, but what do you do with the junk photos? I'd be tempted to keep them then send them to the fools who say things like "No, too many clothes!"
Thren, that is genius!
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
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