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bufffalo ( member #21854) posted at 4:18 AM on Sunday, December 28th, 2014
My sex life has never been this good at any point in my life. Will it disappear again the moment I commit to our marriage? Is it just to get me to believe in her again?
It depends....and its called "hysterical bonding"....I think its subconscious attempt to "reclaim" what is yours....
how was your sex life pre-affair??? that is a rhetorical question, ya don't have to answer it...just something to think about...
In my case.....pre-affair, my sex life was practically non-existent....so was the level of intimacy....2 things a healthy marriage should have.....I don't believe that affairs happen in a vacuum - a marriage without sex and intimacy...add that to no communication skills....is a marriage in serious trouble....BEFORE the affair.....KWIM?
Bufffalo
Mikeinaa (original poster member #45461) posted at 12:14 AM on Saturday, February 7th, 2015
I disappeared for awhile.
Things are getting better. I still occasionally use the var. her conversations with the friend are less and less critical. She does use the friend to vent.
The affair and ea appear to be over. She is working on us.
I have been working on me. I'm trying to get my confidence back. I want to get my swagger and playful cockiness back. I'm taking the lead in this marriage and making the decisions. Sex has been good and feels natural.
I lost 35lbs since the affair. I work out 4 days a week. I weigh 195lbs now and have recovered my abs. I'm looking good and women are noticing.
Still along ways to go but I'm feeling good. 
[This message edited by Mikeinaa at 6:23 PM, February 6th (Friday)]
Me - bs 38
Her - ww 42
2nd marriage for both
1 daughter together 6yo. 2 sons from my first 10 & 12. 1 daughter from her first 24yo
D-day - 11/1/14
7 week ea/pa during her business trips.
Found lingerie in her suitcase
Trying R
healingroad ( member #41920) posted at 12:34 AM on Saturday, February 7th, 2015
Great news Mike -- glad to hear you're doing well.
hurtininHouston ( member #39250) posted at 4:37 PM on Wednesday, February 11th, 2015
Mike it's funny you just got back on here! I read your story way back. My wife did her shit almost exactly 2 years ago. Feb. 19th is the day she slept with that piece of shit.
Feb. 10 is my bday. Feb. 14th .... well you know.
Feb. sucks.
It is funny because I am 5,11 1/2 and always 'claimed" six foot. Her OM was 6'2.
I fucking hate that height now. I could punch the fuck out of anyone who is "6'2".
My R is ok with my wife. There are still really bad days and there are really good days.
................... What a shitty club to belong to!!!!!!
H
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