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User Topic: Lunch date out of the blue...
wincings_sparkle
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wal messaged me at work today and invited me to lunch. It was with his co-workers.

Normally, before, I would have said, "No Thank you" due to the "ack, people I don't know" factor. I would have felt awkward, out of place, unable to be around his friends in that kind of intimate setting.

I would have thought, "He doesn't really want me to go. He's just being nice." or Worse, "He's setting me up to be ignored, hurt, belittled."

Instead, today I asked my boss if I could leave for lunch (Not a normal occurrence as I'm the only nurse on site.) My boss, (awesome lady) told me to make sure I was reachable in case of an emergency and have fun.

I admit that I was a little nervous. I was going though. I was going to lunch to be with my husband.

I don't know if he knew I was nervous. He was wonderful. He Included me in conversation, Held my hand, touched my knee, put his arm around me. Just touching me, even if he wasn't talking to me helped more than he could know. He was solicitous of the time constraint that I was under to return to work... He was just everything that he always is. A very wonderful, thoughtful, witty and engaging individual.

I watched him interact with his co-workers and I watched the care they all share for one another and it warmed my heart. They appreciate him and know how awesome he is. I'm thankful that he has them.

They are the same people that helped Wal as he went through hell after D-day. I didn't ever think that I would sit down to lunch with them and talk about "The Big Bang Theory".

It just amazes me the gifts that God has blessed our family with and I am thankful to God for each and every one of them.

We have come so very far.
Thank you Wal for Lunch today.


"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

Posts: 1594 | Registered: Jan 2010
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Love this.

You've worked so hard. It warms my heart to read what can happen when two people kick butt together.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne


Posts: 6433 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
stilllovingher
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He is awesome, isn't he?

you two sound like you are doing so well these days! I'm very happy for both of you. Its inspiring.

T/J:
I know I haven't spoken much to you directly, but its been plenty via WAL. And I'm hijacking your wonderful post here to say thank you, directly.

And congrats on trampling your fears @ lunch!


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

Posts: 2407 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: still BFE, but now BFE, CA
wincings_sparkle
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Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you Aubrie.

T/J Stilllovingher: I appreciate your thank you.

Credit goes to God. He led me to the right people to help me and then led me into a place where He could use all that I have been through to help others in a meaningful way. Faith then Repentance to Grace and Restitution through Service.
It is worth all of the work to see the results in the end.

Just saw this:

Is Marriage listed in the DSM yet?
I'm so going to ask Doc.


"When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free."
- Catherine Ponder
Me-FWW. BH-wincing_at_light

Posts: 1594 | Registered: Jan 2010
nuance
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Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, June 4th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WAL is awesome :) I'm happy for you guys.


Dday May 2000. R'ed.
People suck.

Posts: 1227 | Registered: Jun 2010 | From: California
SandAway
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Default  Posted: 5:07 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a wonderful post.

WAL is an amazing man and respected by so many here on SI, its great to know that he is the same in real life.


fWW
BH Tred
M 16yrs
DDay Nov. 2011

Guns don't kill people; Affairs kill people


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:40 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you for stepping out of your routine/comfort zone and away from your usual response and going for it.

I'm glad you had a nice lunch .


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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numb&dumb
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is awesome. It made me smile this AM.

I agree, your H is a great guy. He has helped a lot of guys (myself included) through difficult issues.


Me-35 her-35

DS 1, DD 6
Dday 8/31/11. ONS that occurred 3 years earlier. Lied to for 3 years.

Every truth comes to light in a long enough timeline.


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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 10:02 AM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

yay! Love this. WAL is pretty awesome and you deserve this, wincings. You've worked so hard. Congrats to you both.


FWW - 41
"Don't think first about the risks of speaking up. Think first about the risks of not speaking up." ~ Kerry Patterson

Posts: 6024 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: So Cal.....
WalkinOnEggshelz
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love those times when you can step outside of your comfort zone and have such positive results!

The two of you have certainly worked hard to get to where you are and have been an inspiration for many many couples. You deserve a lovely time out together.

Enjoy!


Me: WS 42
Him: BH 43(HoldingTogether)
M: 18years, together 22
2 Daughters: 13 and 10
D Day: 7/24/2010; TT to 10/17/10
If you keep asking people to give you the benefit of the doubt, they will eventually start to doubt your benefit.

Posts: 766 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Texas
heartbroken0903
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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, June 5th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice post to read. I'm glad you two had a nice lunch.


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

We remarried in 2014.


Posts: 2316 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
aesir
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Default  Posted: 3:53 AM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just reading this, and everyone saying great things about wal, I just have to remind you that marriage is a team sport, and don't forget to take some credit for yourself as well.


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
aesir
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Default  Posted: 3:53 AM, June 6th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just reading this, and everyone saying great things about wal, I just have to remind you that marriage is a team sport, and don't forget to take some credit for yourself as well.


Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.

Do not back up. Severe tire damage.


Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
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